Do You Suspect You Have a Cheating Partner? How to Find Out
What to Expect
When a partner is unfaithful, it is a serious breach of trust. And it is something that may indicate that this person is not worthy or capable of a healthy relationship. On one hand, good people make bad choices and if they are truly sorry and can make amends, forgiveness can lead to an even better relationship.
What makes a partner cheat in a relationship
The participants admitted to cheating in their relationship and answered the question at the root of the mystery: Why did you do it? An analysis revealed eight key reasons: anger, self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, sexual desire, and situation or circumstance.
Signs of a cheating partner
Change in behavior
Your partner will be more argumentative, less caring, less interested in anything you do together, withdrawn, and unusual amount of time away even at home, and suddenly, they start to be less appreciative and pick up fights easily.
Appearance and Hobbies
This could mean a hairstyle change, a recent fixation with the gym, or a splurge on new clothing. Sure, this could be new to please you, but it’s important to know that when people cheat, they’re more aware of their looks.
Always on social media
A cheating partner is always texting even when you are together, and the phone goes anywhere with them even the bathroom, sometimes it can be boring, but then the issue arises if this is suddenly a new thing for your partner.
Change in your sex life
Sudden Changes in Libido (Sex Drive). A cheating partner may be less sexual toward you because they are satisfying their needs elsewhere. And every so often the person who has cheated in the relationship may show an eagerness in being more sexually active so that they may appear to be more invested.
Fond of Lying
If your partner accuses you of lying or says that they never lie, they might not be telling the truth. While avoiding eye contact when talking is quite common in a lying partner, looking at you intently is also a sign of lying.
Money issues
Controlling behavior: Your partner starts handling all the responsibility of paying bills and doesn’t want you to get involved, and when you start to notice charges on credit card statements that don’t make sense, that is definitely a Red flag.
How to deal with a cheating partner
- Work through your feelings.
2. Don’t blame yourself. It’s all too easy to blame yourself for what happened, but you’re not responsible for it.
3. Take time for yourself.
4. Gather your evidence.
5. Get tested.
6. Don’t seek revenge.
7. If you have kids, try not to involve the kids because you end up hurting them.
8. And lastly, get help from a counselor.
Again, there is no definitive way to tell if your partner is cheating without asking directly or catching them in the act. And what may be a warning sign in one relationship may be nothing to be concerned about in another relationship. In fact, it’s hard to notice when one is cheating. It is only when the lies and stories stop adding up that cheating usually comes to light.
