Having a Pursuit In Life
and hero’s myth
People ring at the beginning of each year list of goals to apply. They range from a simple plan to a seemingly full plan for extensive habit change, accompanied by many slogans that say, “You must begin a fresh start.” “A new year a new you.” These put you in some way under the impression that you have to become a new person to succeed.
If you think about it, why must annual resolution always start at the beginning of the year? What’s wrong with the middle or the end? Can’t we just continue what we were doing last year and add to it?
Don’t get me wrong, it’s important of course to challenge yourself each year to pause and reflect on the year behind. As well as plan ahead, to make better choices that inspire you to reach a new habit you want.
However, with the importance of this, new year’s resolutions have become more like an annual declaration than an outlook on life. Making you focus on a year, not planning for a more extended life goal or purpose. That gives you a false sense of accomplishment and hope in becoming someone who wants to make something out of their life. As events come and go, short-term goals are like a medicine that convinces us that we are doing something and to just keep going.
But here lies the problem, sometimes we just don’t need to keep going. Rather, we need to stop and reflect, so we can be a voice, not an echo.
What if you feel lost and don’t know what to do with your life? Or how to even begin working towards what you love to do and how to reach it?
having a purpose
If you don’t know what you want in life, you can have a hard time pursuing goals and trying to figure this all out. We make moves, but sometimes they are the wrong ones. Or, rather than make the wrong move, we choose not to make any move at all. That’s why it’s so important to figure out what you want so that you can start living a life that reflects your needs, values, and goals.
And for as long as humans have been around, we’ve been asking ourselves questions about our purpose in life and how to fulfill it.
These existential questions seem to be a part of human nature. The need for a higher and more prestigious goal than graduating or obtaining a certain position in the workplace, a goal that does not lose its luster when it is achieved and gets more ignited.
Since my childhood, I believed everyone should have something to do, something to achieve in life, seeing those around me and the conditions of my country, I dreamed of having an impact on society. I did not have a specific idea of what it was. As I grew up, my vision became clearer, which is writing, wanted to write about every injustice thing in the world, to defend others until I discover the amazing world of journalism.
A lot of things led me to have this pursuit in my life, like, seeing my uncle’s contribution to politics and doing their best for the country. Perhaps because of having all of these questions about life and what are we doing here, and what we meant for, and religion played a big part in shaping my view, and made me realize what we should contribute in leaving a good impact in life and society.
heroes and real Life
Sometimes you have this image that when you grow up, you believe you will change the world by becoming a hero figure or a very successful person. Well at least that’s what the media always says to you, dreaming to contribute to the community, to help others and to have a great purpose right?
Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way, and chasing your goal in real life is not easy, nor is it so in becoming “a hero.” So, you should have expectations that not everything will turn out well. There will be times when you feel down, lost, angry, not wanting to continue, and not knowing what to do.
After graduating from the mass media department and going on a hunt to find a job, I got some things here and there but they wern’t what I was aiming for. I got upset and felt really bad that I’m was not doing enough in my life nor participating in the community. After a while, I started thinking are we laying a bigger burden on ourselves than is necessary?
If you think about it, the answer is a big YES, not just us, but the world also is laying an extra burden by urging us to be a “big something” expecting a lot from us and pushing us to reach the top, which created a big responsibility that goes over our head.
Between life, media, and societal pressure, a great void has been created between what can and can’t be done through knowing where your limitations are, and what life has to offer you, because if there’s one thing you need to know about it life, is always in a consistent change. Some things will work out and others will not. The reality isn’t always easy and you will learn as you grow how to deal with it.
the society pressure
Be around a community that lifts you up, not brings you down
I came from a small town where most of the people there have conventional thinking. What I mean by that is, people share similar ideas about life, desire, and dreams. They lack enriching cultural and societal diversity. They just follow the hive in hopes of being acknowledged.
They study at college, graduate, then head to the labor market, get married have children and so go on. Of course, a lot of these things are important and beautiful but it doesn’t mean that you want to do all of it. Sometimes it means that you are stuck in a life circle that never ends under the rules of others. As my mother always tells us, “choose your friends wisely” I would also like to add “be around a community that lifts you up, not brings you down.”
the hero figures of the modern day
The idea of a hero figure has changed over the years, since I was born in the ’90s, the hero figure today is more focused on earning money, wanting to be rich, and having a rich life doing nothing just buying stuff, having fun, and becoming more self-centered.
In the world of capitalism, the goal is always to have more money, and more things to buy. With the massive use of social media, people crave perfection, seeing influencers and content creators having it all by promoting a false outlook of happiness. They make you feel you are way behind. They often seem to focus on linking goals in life to making more money and being accepted in society.
Modern-day intoxicants are not drugs. Social media is the real intoxicant. To be happy and successful, one must be at the top. Time does not wait for anyone, strive more, and make a double effort. We will not stop running and recommend others to strive and exert. But, does it have an ending? And, what’s the point of all of this?
In a beautiful interview about fame with three famous actresses in Anas bu Khash’s show (ab talks) the Saudi producer Mohammed Al Turki talked about how he has been, for long time in his life, chasing fame money and being around big celebrities.
I just could have been relaxing chilling having a good life and being around a lot of my celebrity friends.
I’ve lived that life for a really long time and it was empty and it didn’t add anything to my life anymore. I’ve literally met everyone in Hollywood. But in the same sense, do I want to be a part of that when I’m not giving projects? When I’m not making a change? When I’m not creating history for my country and my people? No, it was literary empty
Why have this life-like everything looks perfect, have a beautiful house in Beverly hills have this beautiful car have beautiful friends and there’s nothing no depth no purpose”
