All the things that can go wrong using Facebook
I am not against social media. Not against people encouraging each other and discussing minds. Not at all against humans. Facebook exploits our weaknesses.
I have used facebook for over 10 years now. My entire neighbourhood, school, college and university lies here. You want to find a job, it sits there under some group, inside a member’s inbox. It is an entire universe with never ending possibilities. No doubt, it is big.
I don’t want to oppose it just because my ego got hurt somewhere. Or I was not heard loud enough. Or my product was not encouraged enough.
I am going to oppose it, because the moment I took the shift from consuming content to creating content, I got farther away from facebook.
1 — Facebook is not designed to let you grow
You open a video feed and it shows another video with more attractive, informative and interesting video. And after that video another video more valuable. And the endless stream of suggestive videos never end.
We do not watch videos to learn. We shoot, edit and publish videos to learn. We create content and put it in somebody’s hands to learn. Unless it is a video put out there by me, it is not going to teach much to me. We have to get out of this mindset that teaches us; more information means more wisdom / skill / opportunity. More knowledge is noise.
If you want to create content / share it with your friends for feedback. Facebook is the wrong platform for you. Facebook will not ask you to spread it out. But it will ask you to “reach bigger audience for an X amount of dollars”. Investing your hard earned money here, will bring in meaningless likes and zero feedback.
Facebook does not help beginners become a better artist.
2 — Facebook tells you, your experiences are not good enough
Experience is we all’s valuable asset. We have it driving to office, sitting with colleagues, talking to strangers in the grocery store or having a calm, polite walk with family before night.
Facebook, to be precise, tells you, your experiences were not good enough. Your family is just another family. Your car is just another car. Your friends are just like everybody’s friends.
It snatches away the confidence and belief you had in your own relationships, friends and products. You feel bad defending them. And you are considered arrogant, if in some way, you try to defend them.
In a town of 100 people, in 1880s, a person with loudest voice got the claps. Today, in a town of 100 million people, the same person does not find a right to seek encouragement. Facebook is this town, where only violent oppressors / preachers and looters take away your credit. And you, the small artist of 1880’s polite town, feel isolated.
You should grow your confidence by shutting your doors to outsiders.
3 — Freedom lies in silence
Facebook is the worst platform to limit you. It does not mean that twitter, Insta, Snapchat or WhatsApp, are better. They are not as worst as facebook, but they are still ugly, if you are a consumer.
You got to stop listening to people. You got to stop taking in suggestions and advises. You got to stop letting the noise in. You got to pick your pencil, a white paper, find a quiet place and draw your goal. You got to pen down the steps that will lead you to your dream job. And you got to walk on your own curated path.
In silence you will find many answers. Like, how you can win the best girl, or the expensive car or a bigger home. Money, lies in silence. Life, lies in silence. Your victories lies in silence.
If you got carried away with the noise, it will take some time to win back the lost silence and re-drawing your path to success.
Conclusion
I often tell my friends, if they are not happy with the present me, my block buster successes and golden buzzers won’t change it one bit. They will still be wanting more out of me.
You can not convince people. They will always expect more from you. They will always have a crib against you. They will always find negatives inside you. You have to stop striving here. You will stand a loser here.
Shut down your phone, computer and TV. Stop opening your door to every knock. Isolate yourself from friends, family and neighbourhood. Go back to wilderness. Go back to acting selfish. Find what you were truly meant to conquer. Pen down your plan and start running towards your goal.
Else you are gonna die just like everybody else, without having fun, which is not fun.
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