How My Parents Influenced My Identity as a Gay Man

Masculine and Feminine Characteristics

Darren Stehle
Dec 15, 2018 · 7 min read
Me with my parents as a baby.

How do we learn to become who we are?

I feel fortunate to have grown up with two loving and supportive parents.

My father I would label as “gentle masculine”.

My mother I want to label as “frustrated feminine”.

There was something my father never taught me.

Two experiences at school speak to my balanced upbringing.

From a very young age my parents taught me the requisite skills to take care of myself as an adult.

I remember watching the film adaptation of Torch Song Trilogy in my early 20s.

Recounting these memories reminds me of how out of place I felt during my adolescence.


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Darren Stehle

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Thought Leadership Coaching for Queer Creatives, https://darrenstehle.com. Creator of http://ThinkQueerlyPodcast.com & Th-Ink Queerly Magazine on Medium.

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Think Queerly is a LGBTQ+ thought leadership magazine and podcast that challenges the hegemonic status quo, disrupts prejudice, and demonstrates our vital role in society as queer leaders to improve humanity.

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