The Secret that Lives in the Closet

How Internalized Prejudice/Homophobia Limits Diversity

Darren Stehle
Oct 16, 2019 · 6 min read
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“In the Closet, Again” – marc falardeau

Identity suppression should be a hate crime. For every government, culture, or religion that has attempted to suppress inborn human characteristics and freedom of expression, there is a person who is dying inside. There is a person who has been killed by political or religious ideology in the hands of close-minded, indoctrinated, faith-based individuals. There is a person who has taken their own life after years of trying to fit in — after years of trying to hammer themselves into a square slot as a misfitting cylinder. — Source

How does internalized homophobia in gay men affect other LBTQ individuals?

Beauty, they say, is fleeting. And if physical beauty is ephemeral then we best focus on the quality of our nature and seek to be the best version of ourselves.

The puzzle of who we are

A melting pot culture doesn’t celebrate diversity. By fitting in you are disappearing yourself into the status quo. Fitting in is anything but queer. Integrating; bringing your uniqueness to benefit the greater whole, and belonging; being accepted for who you are without judgement or limitation, is how we embrace diversity.

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“Open the doors, we do not belong here.” — Emanuele Spies

Diversity may be initially uncomfortable, and that’s okay.

A completed puzzle is like a metaphor for life.

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