“Is the G-spot real?”
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When it comes to female sexuality, there’s no shortage of mysterious concepts and WTF moments that can make it hard to distinguish science from Lala land.
Not to mention there are nuances that make going 💥 for us a slightly more complicated juggling act than the “rinse and repeat” nature of male sexuality.
If only we always felt this way!
In this third chapter of “Tia’s Guide to Female Pleasure,” I’ve been asked to inject some much needed science into one of the biggest mysteries of them all:
A short history-lesson to kick this one off:
The mysterious “G-spot” rose to fame in the 1950s when German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg (from whom the “G” got its name) reported a specific pleasure point in the vagina, that when touched, leads to the most powerful of female orgasms.
Ever since Grafenberg’s famed discovery though, women and scientists alike have been on a witch hunt in search for the trigger point of trigger points to prove him right or wrong.
While the Journal of Sexual Medicine states that “objective measures have failed to provide strong and consistent evidence for the existence of an anatomical site that could be related to the famed G-spot,” 56% of women believe that they do have a “spot” in their vagina that causes more arousal when touched.
So, what’s the source of truth then?
As it turns out, the debate here is really a matter of semantics — but an important one!
While there is no specific anatomical organ you can pinpoint to as the G-spot, there is an erogenous “zone” if you will, on the anterior wall of the vagina that is extra pleasurable.
An erogenous zone is an area of the body that has heightened sensitivity due to a high concentration of nerve endings. Some people find these areas pleasing to touch. Others less so.
Think: nipples, your ears, around your belly-button, maybe the bottoms of your feet, and yes — your vagina, or more specifically, a region within your vagina called the Clitourethrovaginal Complex — or CUV complex for us laypeople!
(No, I can NOT say that one out loud!).
What’s the CUV complex?
According to Dr. Helen O’Connell, a professor of urology at the Royal Melbourne Hospital who coined the term in a 1998 study, the CUV complex is the notion that the clitoris, urethra, and vagina all stimulate each other during sex. It’s the interconnectedness of these parts so-to-speak vs. one specific “spot” that is responsible for female orgasms.
If you remember last week’s #TiaTalkTuesday, we talked about how the clitoris is shaped like a V and has “legs” that straddle the vagina. When a penis/finger/vibrator enters the vagina, it spreads its walls and stimulates the legs of the clitoris.
Because the clitoris, urethra and vagina all share the same nerves and blood, this whole “zone” can be stimulated as a result, leading to a deep and powerful orgasm.
So, how do I activate this zone?
Ah yes! Let’s get to the goods: while the clitourethralvaginal complex is much harder to say than good ol’ G-spot, the good news is it’s much easier to find.
Try exploring it on your own with your fingers or a vibrator — no need to go more than an inch into your vagina to start stimulating this area.
The ah-mazing feeling might make you feel like you need to pee, but just remember, it’s because your urethra is part of this magical “zone” and your bladder is probs feeling a bit of (harmless) pressure.
Power through and just maybe, you’ll discover that magical “O.”
Thanks to Ava Mainieri, PHD Candidate in Evolutionary Biology at Harvard University, for her help researching and authoring this post! 🙏
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