That people with high EQ have in common.

Petra Ivanigova
Jan 15 · 2 min read
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Emotional intelligence is a term created by two researchers, Peter Salavoy and John Mayer, and widely popularized by Dan Goleman in 1996 when he published the book with the same title.

“It is the capability of individuals to recognize their own emotions and those of others, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately.”

In other words, it is the ability to manage our own emotions and influence the emotions of others.

People with high EQ have these things in common:

#Know Strengths and Weaknesses

They know what they bring to the table. They are aware of their strengths and weaknesses. Thanks to it, they know in what they are good at and can play with it well.

“Our ability to manage ourselves and handle relationships matters twice as much as IQ. “ — Daniel Goleman

#Demonstrate Empathy

They understand the feelings of others. These people are good listeners and able to see the things from a different perspective. They are genuinely interested in other people and want to help them to improve.

#Control Emotions

They know how to work with their emotions in various situations, and learned to control them. They often make time to pause and think before speaking. These people benefit from constructive criticism, it moves them forward.

No matter the situation, never let your emotions to overpower your intelligence.

# Collaborate Well

They can collaborate well in any environment. They respect other people´s opinion and make them involved.

# Inspire and Motivate

Thanks to their interest in other people and great listening skills, they understand the motivation and know how to inspire others. They are authentic and transparent about their values. Admit making a mistake.

”Emotional intelligence, more than any other factor, more than IQ or expetise, accounts of 85% to 90% of success at work. IQ is a treshold competence. You need it, but it does not make you a star. Emotional intelligence can.” — Warren G. Bennis

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