SHE SAYS…. Do threesomes end relationships or enhance them?

Threesomes. Every man’s dream and every woman’s nightmare. At least, that’s the stereotype. Now, if you’ve read any of my Phoenix After Dark books or Foolin’ Around 4: Tim Travere then you know I am a fan of the polyamorous. Threesomes can be fun but only for the right people and for the right reasons. So, let’s tackle two of the main misconceptions about threesomes before finally answering the question.

  1. Threesomes cause jealousy. This, like many topics we cover in #RelationshipChatter, are both true and untrue. Threesomes can cause jealousy. Whether you are going with a traditional two women and man menage a trois or a “devil’s threesome,” if you are insecure in your relationship then you are asking for trouble by adding in another person. Adding a third person magnifies the good and the bad in a relationship. If you and your partner are unable to communicate, don’t trust each other, or have checked out, you’ll definitely see and feel it during your threesome. However, if you and your partner are secure, go into this with an open mind, and have discussed hard and soft limits beforehand then a threesome may be for you.
  2. Threesomes can keep you from cheating. Hell no. This is an alternative fact. If a person wants to cheat, they will cheat. No amount of threesomes, foursomes, or orgies will keep them faithful. If your partner cannot be loyal, that’s a them issue. There is nothing you can do to keep them from roaming. In fact, having a threesome may have the opposite result. It might cause them to cheat more or be more flagrant about it.

So, do threesomes end or enhance relationships? It really depends on you and your partner. As usual, it all begins with communication and self-evaluation. Are you agreeing to this threesome because it is something you want to try or because your partner wants it? Are you secure in your position in your partner’s life? Do you know what your limits and concerns are? Have you discussed them with your partner? Answer these questions first then look into finding a third to complete your triad. Be bold, be loud, be shameless, and embrace the kink.

P.S. Ladies, do you want to find out if your man is asking for a threesome to enhance the relationship or because he really wants to try a new woman? Tell him you will do a threesome but only if it’s a devil’s threesome (two men and a woman) first and see how he reacts. His answer may surprise you.