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Dating App Message? — Should you respond? — When, Why, or Why Not
Hello Singles! I’m a 50+ single woman and I have been dating internationally (and long-distance) via an app (OKCupid) for a year at this point. Back when I lived in Canada, I similarly employed the same app for about a year — and enjoyed a two-year relationship as a result (one which did not move abroad with me).
Overall, this method of dating suits me, but there is definitely a learning curve. I am hoping, through my various articles, to help you avoid some of the pitfalls, resulting in a better experience.
By way of a disclaimer, I write from my perspective, based upon my experiences, wants and needs. I do believe, however, that many of the observations I share, apply universally. Feel free to comment or email me with reactions or questions.
Let’s get into it!
Alright, you have matched with someone you are interested in and now it is time to start the conversation and explore if there is a connection, or potential for it. You will find I say this over-and-over, but here we go: How would this look in the real world? Over a coffee?
Before we speak about how to respond to a message, a little housekeeping to see if you should respond. Sometimes it is wiser to delete and “unmatch” right out of the gate!
