Confirming Asexual Differences in an Allosexual World
Asexuality in a world built around sexual attraction can feel like a puzzle box that has no instructions being turned around in one hand to another, new questions appearing constantly about the experiences of lived aces across the spectrum within it, always shifted, never solved. There are many things within asexuality and asexual experiences that can seem to directly contradict the experience of having little to no sexual attraction from the outside, even more so from the inside when one is not educated about asexuality, its nuances, or its microlabels. Our experiences are pulled apart and analyzed in a way that most often is meant to find a cure or denial to the asexual experience that can be reasonably justified by those on the outside, their minds made up before they even give us a chance to speak.
One of these that people often make their minds up about long before learning about it is demisexuality. Demisexuality refers to an orientation under the gray area between asexuality and allosexuality (not being ace) in which a person experiences limited, conditional sexual attraction. This sexual attraction is formed when under the circumstances of a close bond, which can mean something different for every demisexual, much in the same way that every bisexual’s experiences will be unique to him, or every lesbian’s experiences will be unique to her. The…
