The Ace Space

Thanks Gareth!

My name is Eryn, I’m 45, and I’m an Asexual.

And asexual men challenge the narrow view of male sexuality

Because your brain turns me feral, baby

The strong bond need makes things different… and awkward

Don’t fully fit? Doubting is natural, but it doesn’t mean you’re wrong about who you are

We actually have far more in common with full asexual people

Holding certain ace people as the face of the asexual community serves to dismiss and invalidate many people’s experiences

We aren’t unicorns or romance objects

Yeah, I think it’s a weird comparison but bear with me on this…

“I don’t want to have sex with anyone ever” makes a lot of people angry

Demisexuality: a midpoint, if you like, between allosexuality (those who experience frequent sexual attraction to others) and asexuality…

Why would it?

Celebrating and embracing my aceness this Pride Month

Despite the virulent queerphobia within the Black community, I’m attempting to celebrate Pride that honors all my identities.

You haven’t tried sticky toffee pudding, have you?

Purposely ignoring the aspec is intentional and when it isn’t spurned or sidestepped, aromantics are frequently left out while negative…

Learning to love my complicated attraction history

Is it that we’re not having sex in a way they don’t like?

I can’t always fully give it, and I’m now ok with that

I’ve been thinking a lot about this since accepting it’s who I am

My experiences have taught me that you shouldn’t be afraid to call yourself queer

It actively harms asexual men

Or what my life as a single, middle-aged asexual Black woman is like