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11 Ways to Destroy Your Chances of Being Successful

Last year I left a high paying 9–5 career to build an online brand from nothing.

As a wildly ambitious 29-year old it was a bold move leaving the safety of six figures for the uncertainty of entrepreneurship.

After an interesting first year I realized I was focusing on the wrong metrics of success — money. I made a lot of it in the corporate world but was miserable.

So why keep measuring success with dollar signs?

Instead, I decided to create my own metrics for success. I spent a lot of time identifying my version of success in life and business.

Sure money is important, but I don’t want to sacrifice long-term money just to make a quick buck.

The problem was that I had 3–4 habits that made it nearly impossible to actually become that version of myself.

So I went on a mission the past year to study successful people by reading 50+ books, attending seminars, and even fire walking with Tony Robbins.

As Tony Robbins said, “Success always leaves clues.

While it wasn’t as in depth as Napoleon Hill’s 20+ years studying successful people, I learned from enough successful CEO’s, entrepreneurs and elite athletes to see what they do every day to exceed at the highest levels.

Successful people have a ton in common but so do unsuccessful people. These were the habits limiting my own potential.

Check out the 11 habits of unsuccessful people that will ensure you’ll NEVER reach your fullest potential.

Avoid these bad habits and you can create a masterpiece with your life.

1. They Watch 4+ Hours of TV Per Day

“Poor people have big TV’s. Rich people have big libraries.” —

The average person reads a few books per year while the average CEO reads 52 books per year.

Instead of reading, unsuccessful people watch an obnoxious amount of reality TV, negative news, and other mind-numbing programs.

This is the reason Lamborghini’s, Ferrari’s, and Bentleys don’t waste their advertising dollars on TV commercials. They understand their affluent demographic isn’t watching TV on a regular basis.

Instead, they are reading, learning, and growing to become wealthy enough to afford these types of automobiles.

2. They Never Set Goals

“If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work on you. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to work on you. Whatever good things we build end up building us.” — Jim Rohn

They don’t set goals because:

  • They’re terrified of failing
  • They’re way too lazy
  • They have limiting beliefs and a fixed mindset which limits their potential

They simply go through life hoping it will turn out okay. This is why so many people live in mediocrity and in a constant state of suffering.

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3. They Never Work on Themselves

“Income seldom exceeds personal development.” —

But successful people base their success on becoming voracious learners.

They aren’t leaving their future success up to chance.

As motivational speaker and high-performance coach Brendon Burchard said, “You have to have a plan for development. You have to have a plan for the way you are going to act. These things aren’t just going to happen automatically.

Don’t leave your future to chance.

Spend 80% of the day being proud of what you’ve achieved and 20% figuring out how to get to the next level.

The more time and money you spend on you, the more you will be rewarded.

Read daily, be mindful of your thoughts, attend seminars, write in a journal, and learn from other successful people.

4. They Don’t Have a Plan

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.” —

Don’t be busy — busy is losing mentality.

Instead, become intentional with your day.

Each night before you go to bed make a plan for the following day. Block out necessary time for what you need to do to achieve your biggest goals.

Start your day by always doing the hardest thing first.

This will build momentum, create confidence, and improve your self-image by keeping the promises you make to yourself. Make the call, send the email, or write the post you have been procrastinating.

Also, don’t forget to plan your end time the following day. You need to know when you are “done” and can spend time with family, friends, or work on yourself.

5. They Lack Discipline

“Success is nothing more than a few disciplined practices every single day.” —

They always have excuses that sound like:

  • “I’m not a morning person.”
  • “I’m not good at cooking.”
  • “I’m not a gym person.”

As Navy SEAL and best-selling author Jocko Willink said, “Discipline equals freedom.

Discipline gives you the structure to accomplish what you need to do each day without being stressed or busy.

Don’t fear discipline, learn to love it. Self-discipline is nothing more than self-love.

The more disciplined you are the more you will achieve in your life.

6. They Hate Change

If you don’t like how things are change it you aren’t a tree.” —

But successful people love change. They understand that while change might be difficult, it is necessary for growth.

But change is also how to make your life actually mean something.

Sometimes you have to “stress” your mind so it can grow, develop, and evolve.

As the co-founder Quest Nutrition Tom Bilyeu said, “Humans are the ultimate adaptation machines. And the only way we evolve is through stress.

If you’re overweight and want to lose weight you have to change your eating habits or your exercise habits…simple as that.

If you want to earn more money you have to learn how to provide more value to your customers. This can be from learning new skills, meeting new people, hiring a coach, and putting in the work.

Don’t fear change, learn to welcome more of it into your life.

Change is the only way to become the person you want to be so you can achieve what you want to achieve.

7. They Neglect Exercise

“Take care of your body, it’s the only place you have to live.” —

But successful people make exercise a way of life. It’s now “if” they exercise, it’s when they do.

Not only for the physical benefits but for the mental effects as well.

As Forbes 50 Under 50, Ed Mylett said, “I think you could take away 90% of the financial success I’ve had if you take away my commitment to getting fit.

It’s been proven that you get paid more if you are in better shape.

Find some type of exercise you like and make it part of your morning routine.

Besides, whats the point of becoming wealthy and successful and not be in good enough shape to enjoy it?

8. They Hang Out With Losers

“Don’t join an easy crowd; you won’t grow. Go where the expectations and the demands to perform are high.” —

They like the comfort and lack of accountability that average friends bring into their lives.

It’s so easy to get comfortable with your social circle. And that’s fine if your friends are uplifting, happy, and positive individuals.

But, if your friends aren’t helping you they are limiting your potential in life.

As Dan Sullivan said, “Your friends should remind you more of your future, not your past.”

9. They Want Success to Be Easy

“Don’t wish it were easy, wish you were better.” —

But success isn’t overnight, it’s the farthest thing from it.

Yet, everyone wants to workout once and have six-pack abs. Or start an online business and make $20,000 a month instantly.

Success is about consistent, daily habits and rituals sustained over a long period of time.

Success is about sustaining an enthusiastic attitude when nothing is working.

Success isn’t supposed to be easy. Otherwise, everyone would be driving around in sports cars and owning private jets.

As Michael Jordan’s legendary trainer Tim Grover said in Relentless,

Everything gets easier when you stop expecting it to be easy.

10. They Have a Pessimistic Attitude

“We must all wage an intense, lifelong battle against the constant downward pull. If we relax, the bugs and weeds of negativity will move into the garden and take away everything of value.”

Statically it is easier to be negative as our brains are wired for it. The human brain averages 40,000–70,000 thoughts per day…of those 70% are actually negative based on a study from Psychology Today.

The number one purpose of your mind is your survival. It’s always looking for threats to your ability to survive.

It used to look for threats like saber tooth tigers. Now our mind is looking out for modern fears like — what do people think of me?

Successful people always maintain an optimistic outlook in life. It’s not to say they don’t get frustrated, angry or upset but they don’t focus on it for long.

11. They Think They Know It All

“Learning is the beginning of wealth. Learning is the beginning of health. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins.” —

As Malcolm Forbes said, “The dumbest people I know think they know it all.

Don’t be lazy with learning.

Be lazy at work before you are with your own development.

Reading is to your mind what working out is to your body.

Push yourself to learn more and make learning your barometer of success.

As Earl Nightingale said, “One hour per day of study in your chosen field is all it takes. One hour per day of study will put you at the top of your field within three years. Within five years you’ll be a national authority. In seven years, you can be one of the best people in the world at what you do.

“For things to change, you have to change.” — Jim Rohn

Dropping most of these habits have helped every part of my life improve and know they can do the same for you.

Start making changes in your life to become the version of success YOU want to achieve.

Yes, success is the harder path in life. It’s much easier to hit the snooze button, work at a 9–5 that pays the bills, watch TV, and mindlessly eat until you go to sleep.

But it’s also far less rewarding.

You only get one life, don’t settle for average.

Don’t settle for mediocre because that’s how 99% of the world lives.

Strive to do better. Strive to achieve more.

Change your habits and you can change your life.

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