4 Things Where Common Sense Is Completely The Opposite From Reality
There are many subjects or topics in this world, where the majority doesn’t act in their own sense.
Common sense is not common practice.
We see it everywhere. Typical examples are losing body fat, gaining muscles or eating and living healthy. Everyone knows how one lose body fat or gain muscles or which nutrition is healthy and which not. And everyone knows, that being healthy and moving often makes their lives better, but they simply don’t do it.
I don’t want to go deep into this topic at this place. I want to talk about these things, at which common sense is common practice and massively on the opposite direction from happiness and fulfillment in my sense.
Since I started my journey of personal development and lifelong learning the following for messages were implemented day by day into my life. I lived them and I see them as keys for making progress.
People always look for simplicities for describing something. They hope for shortcuts to success, they want to have the one secret or the one correct way to simply fulfill themselves. All that will never happen and if you read this right now, you might share my belief.
1. Behavior before Motivation
We always look and hope for motivation and say things like “Maybe next time” or “I don’t have the motivation to do that”. But motivation is moooooody. Motivation isn’t there when we need it. Motivation comes and goes. That’s why a huge amount of highly successful people say motivation is garbage.
But let’s talk about motivation in terms of the will to do something you want to do.
The “secret” is to grow or create your motivation by taking action first. There is never motivation before you took action on something in some way — no chance. The motivation will arouse after some time. We all know the sports problem. We don’t have any motivation at all and after forcing ourselves to move and start working out or running the motivation arouses.
Until I didn’t start my own blog and really start writing and creating content by myself I was simply procrastinating on building something on my own. Starting at one time and the next steps were quite obvious. Now I write every day and I don’t want to stop.
Success breeds success.
Even if my writing hasn’t gone viral (which is simply impossible, at the very start and won’t happen overnight) and so there was no “success” in the sense of society, there was personal success and the personal success increases every single day.
So take the first step. Start with anything. Even if this isn’t the right direction for you, a first step will encourage you to take further first steps and some first steps will definitely synergize and lead into a direction you want to hit.
2. Action before Inspiration
“I could need some inspiration to …” is a quite common phrase at least in my feeling. But the thing is, inspiration won’t come to you until you started doing something.
Every day I ask myself what I could write today. After reading or hearing something the topic often becomes clear and I simply start to write. So from a small thought arises a whole article full of my thoughts, values, and beliefs — like this one.
If you need inspiration for example for cooking (like me nearly everytime) just google, talk to someone asking for tips or just head off to the market and see what happens. Probably Google is the fastest opportunity. Being at the supermarket for an hour and leave with two apples isn’t very cool. But who knows. Anyway, doing nothing about it isn’t an alternative to create something great.
3. Behavior before Personality
I don’t like the phrase “I am not the type for that” really much. Especially if someone who follows the religion “Netflix & Chill” tells me that.
Personality isn’t something you have. Personality is something you create and develop by yourself.
Otherwise, the field of Personal Development wouldn’t exist, right? You don’t create your personality by thinking about yourself. You create it by taking action, making experiences and behaving in a certain way.
Ok, it might be, that a part of your personality is fixed, but it is the clear minority for sure. Some really smart guys say, your personality is fixed by 1/3. Anyway, you have the much bigger part of your personality to create by yourself in the very way you want it to have. So act on it.
About three and a half years I discovered Calisthenics and bodyweight training for myself. Training regularly in a totally new way brought my self-confidence and my self-esteem to the next level. And this was only the first step. Years with a dedication to training, nutrition and personal development followed, and still persist. I believe, this one point in time was the start of my whole self-discipline how it is today and the reason why progressing nonstop has become a crucial part of my life.
4. Vulnerability before Trust
Trust is the key to deep, meaningful and fulfilling relationships, no doubt. But trust is hard to build up. There are only a few persons in my life whom I really trust. And in eachof these relationships, there was a point where at least one of us felt vulnerable. Some were there for me when my father died and for some, I was there when the partner broke up. Even little things like buying a glittery princess book, when you already are a young woman shows some vulnerability and builds up trust.
Vulnerability is a really big thing and we all struggle with it at some point when trust isn’t formed yet. It makes us highly uncomfortable. But if the relationship is meaningful in your sense it is definitely worth to risk being in some kind vulnerable towards your friend or partner.
