6 Reasons Why Your Best Days Are Still Ahead

#5: Your well-being increases as you learn to love yourself better.

Laine Kaleja
Nov 27, 2020 · 7 min read
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ften when we face challenging times, we are looking back to the time in our past when we felt happy. Perhaps you traveled or had a great time together with loved ones. Maybe you are looking back to the time when you had a less stressful time financially.

Life goes through seasons and cycles — there are moments when we feel like we are on the top of the mountain, and there are moments when we feel like hitting rock bottom. I believe that we get better with every cycle; therefore, our lives get better too.

Occasionally challenging times and circumstances are needed to give the extra push for the next level. Otherwise, we get comfortably stuck where we are.

When we focus on our personal development and maintain a great attitude, our best days will still be ahead.

It can feel like the moment of hitting rock bottom, but we will learn from that, and it will contribute to us becoming a better version of ourselves.

Here are six things to boost up your attitude and increase faith that your best days are still ahead:

1. You Have Experiences And Mistakes to Learn From

“Failures are a part of life. If you don’t fail, you’ll never learn. If you don’t learn, you’ll never change.” Morgan Freeman

Although it does not feel like pleasure when we experience mistakes and failures, they can positively change our lives.

Mistakes that we have repeated may be eye-opening, showing us where we are stuck.

It helps us to see things from a different perspective. And often, a change of perspective is what we need to make vital changes in life.

Change of perspective is like changing a diet after you have eaten the same things for a long time. Your taste buds feel a whole lot differently. You see and feel life differently after you change your perspective on things.

Often the lessons we learn from mistakes and failures can serve as our top stories that help others.

2. You Learn To Apply the Knowledge You Get

Far more important than merely knowing is applying the knowledge.
In his recent article on how to live a successful life, Rory Vaden points out that hard work is not enough — what multiplies your growth is smart work.

Smart work means being deliberate about applying what you learn strategically and wisely.

If you are reading this, then I am sure you are focused on personal development. You are learning new knowledge, gaining new perspectives, and now it is up to you to use it and apply it.

“Excellence is not a gift, but a skill that takes practice. We do not act rightly, because we are excellent; in fact we achieve excellence by acting rightly.” — Plato

My obstacle for growth has been that I love to learn and gain new knowledge, but often I pile it up for the sake of having it and don’t focus on implementing.

It takes intentional focus to build a new habit and apply existing knowledge to create a new strategy that would work.

It helps to regularly reflect upon what you have done and haven’t, what has worked and what hasn’t.

3. You Learn To Let Go of Fear and Doubt

There is a moment when life throws you out of your comfort zone. And there you are — finally faced with your fear, insecurities, doubts, and questions.

And you realize that there is only one way forward — to face your fear. If you don’t meet your fears and step into the unknown, you will never truly experience what it means to be alive and discover your life purpose.

You figure out that fear has been nothing more than a limiting story you have been telling to yourself.

You fall in love with being uncomfortable, and that becomes your new “normal.”

You are ready to let go of all the other fears and doubts you have had because you see how it has held you back from your dream life.

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4. You Become Clear About Your Life Purpose

Life purpose can seem such a vague thing. Like what is it?

Often it can sound misleading as if there would be one main thing we need to do in our life. If we do it then, we will be happy; if not, we might lead miserable lives.

Instead, let’s try to look at our life purpose as a process rather than a destination.

As we gather more knowledge, life experience, and shift our perspectives, we will understand our most extraordinary talents, which lighten the spark of excitement in us.

If we work or do business while also serving with our greatest gifts and talents, we will feel confident, fulfilled, and happy.

We can see our purpose more clearly when we learn to distinguish between acting upon outside influence and following our gifts, talents, and passions.

Doing what we love and serving others with our most amazing gifts leads us towards a happier and more abundant life.

5. Your Well-Being Increases As You Learn to Love Yourself Better

You learn not to engage in self-destructive behavior, such as a feeling of a victim or pity-parties.

There comes a time when you understand how unfruitful that is.
It wastes your time, damages your attitude, and holds you back from moving forward.

Self-love and self-acceptance are crucial for experiencing a deep sense of satisfaction with life, achieving your goals, and leading a fulfilled life.

A while back, I often experienced moments of “I don’t want to do anything” and “Things are just not working out for me.” I felt unmotivated and sad.

Usually, that lasted for about a week. Then I got back to the motivation phase and focused on what I can do instead of working out.

Now I have learned to recognize and repel these thoughts of “nothing works out,” “I am just not good enough,” etc., right away. I have learned not to engage with them.

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” — Lucille Ball

When a negative thought comes into your mind, it is no big deal. Everybody has it. However, suppose you permit yourself to think about it and to engage with it. It grows bigger and stronger until it makes a story and forms a belief.

When you change those negative stories about yourself of not being good enough, smart enough, communicative enough, then you can change your life for the better.

Treating yourself well and loving yourself improves your relationships, finances, health, and overall well-being. It brings forth your sense of purpose, enabling you to make decisions based on what your heart says rather than the noise of others’ opinions.

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6. You Learn That You Have Control Over Your Life

There are two ways to live life — as a victim or as someone who can take ownership and responsibility for whatever happens.

And sometimes, taking ownership and responsibility means acknowledging that there are things you can’t control.

But you can choose to maintain your attitude. Controlling your attitude means choosing how you react to whatever happens.

For example, this pandemic for most people has caused an unexpected change of plans — loss of a job, losses in finances, many restrictions, a sense of loneliness, perhaps even loss of a loved one.

At first, I also felt like a victim because I could not work in the summer, the type of work that usually makes me my whole year’s livelihood.

But there was precisely nothing I could do to change that. So I had to learn to find the positives in the situation and see what I can do.

“Don't worry about what you can't control. Our focus and energy needs to be on the things we CAN control. Attitude, effort, focus — these things we can control.” — Tim Tebow

Looking back to the spring and summer of 2020, the significant changes in my life caused by the pandemic have been eye-opening. I realized I had become comfortable doing the same things again and again for quite a while.

Doing what I always have done can't get me to the vision I had recently set up for my life.

The circumstances I could not control served to get me out of the routine and give me the awakening I needed to pursue my goals and vision.

We might not always have control over what happens. Still, we always control how we choose to react to it and make the best out of unfavorable circumstances.

Conclusion

Sometimes when we go through tough times, it isn’t easy to maintain a perspective and belief that our best days are still ahead.

However, the truth is that if we don’t give up, we will figure out a healthy, harmonious, and wise way of living that will bring us success, happiness, joy, peace, love, and abundance.

Learn from the mistakes and failures, apply what you learn, let go of fear, embrace your life purpose, learn to love yourself, and choose to control the controllable.

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Laine Kaleja

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Mindset & Life Purpose Coach ✨ I help people get clear on their purpose in life and break free from the limiting beliefs holding them back! 💛 lainekaleja.com

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Mindset & Life Purpose Coach ✨ I help people get clear on their purpose in life and break free from the limiting beliefs holding them back! 💛 lainekaleja.com

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