Doing These 3 Small Things Now Will Quickly Help Improve Your Relationships

#1: Differentiate between requests and requirements.

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For a long time, I have lived an unhappy and unsatisfied life.

Because my idea of happiness was — somebody will come, complete me, and make me happy. Growing up, I didn’t have ideal role models. This corrupt belief system makes sense then.

Guess what? Nobody like that ever came. Or even when a relationship was going well with my partner, I’d screw it up with over expectations.

This holds for my non-romantic relationships too.

Because I was expecting to find my happiness in someone else, expecting them to ‘give’ me my happiness — I was miserable.

Yes, happiness is inside of you. Like sadness, happiness is also temporary. It doesn't make sense to chase happiness too. I know it now. At that time, I was unhappy.

I abstained from romantic relations for a year and gave myself space. I wanted to be a nerd about it and learn what I was doing wrong in the first place. So I did that. I read books. I talked to life coaches. And I learned so many things about relationships.

Many realizations about why my romantic relationships weren’t working also gave me insights…