What are you saving for the future? A beautiful dress? A nice bottle of wine? Or maybe you’re saving up something even more important.
You are saving that sigh of satisfaction that comes with living a life that you love. You are so obsessed with the idea of how things are supposed to be before you feel grateful and happy, that you are withholding satisfaction from yourself.
Or maybe it’s something else you’re saving for last. You are saving enjoying your kids until they are older or a particular age or at a particular stage in life before you start enjoying them.
‘Why are you doing this?” Why are you saving the best and happiest days of your life for last? Why are you waiting to write your best story last?
I can understand having to put in the hard work to create a beautiful life. Or delayed gratification. But why do you want to live a life where the best part is at the end?
I have been doing this to myself. I’m an overthinking and overplanning introvert. I have to constantly remind myself to be kind to me.
Personally, right now in my life, I have been feeling stuck. I have this beautiful image of my life, which is great. But I’m too busy planning and trying to create it that I forget that there is nothing wrong with where I’m at now.
I have discovered that I am at my best when I am most positive. (No shocker, I know. All the motivational books told us so).
So when I start out on a project or an idea, I am so pumped. So filled with the possibilities.
But when the original pump fades, and I am left facing the execution part, it can feel a bit tedious. Which isn’t surprising. Hard work is a part of life. But if you really look at things, executing anything is longer than the initial dream phase.
If you want to write a book or launch a business, to succeed you would spend more time working to make it happen than fantasizing about the idea. At least that’s what you should do if you want to get it done. There are some people that have the reverse, but that’s a different problem. (Fantasising and daydreaming can turn into stalling).
This means a greater part of your life is spent on working to make things work. And you do this because you believe there is a reward waiting for you at the end of the journey. Whether it’s financial freedom, or fame or anything else. It is designed to be a reward for your hard work.
It makes sense. But like I said I do my best when I am my most positive self. And putting in hours and years of work for a cherry at the end can suck the positivity out of a person.
Some people’s dreams have turned into nightmares because the get so drained by the execution phase.
So this is what I recommend. Don’t save the best for last anymore. Your chances of quitting are higher if you do. Not to mention, you’ll be more frustrated if you do.
Accept that you would need to commit and be consistent if you want to see results. But also embrace where you are right now. Once upon a time, where you are right now may have been a destination that you were looking forward to.
And I’m not talking about scheduling rewards for yourself. I’m talking about living your life as if living and working on your project or idea was a reward.
This is a complete attitude overhaul. If you want to become a famous writer, and you are currently in the idea phase for your book. That’s fine. See this stage as beautiful. See it as an adventure that you get to live.
Switching your mind from “I’m saving my best for last” to “I am enjoying my best right now” allows you to do that and to be your best self. And if you can be your best self right now, you can build a better self for tomorrow.
The truth about procrastinating your reward is, after a while, it kills your momentum. Your mind gets stuck in the future that the present just passes you by. But the future is created by the things we do now.
Everything around us teaches us to plan and prepare for the future. And if you follow my articles you know that I enjoy planning. But nothing prepares us to live in the present.
I’m not saying that where I’m at in my life is perfect. But it is real. And I have come to realize that the present is just as important as the future, if not more because it creates the future.
But don’t rush off on a shopping spree screaming YOLO. But allow yourself to pause frequently, take a deep breath and just appreciate where you are, as you continue the journey to where you want to be.
I will not save the best part of my life for last. I want to have it right now. And that’s the thing with living in the moment, it never has to pass.
Thank you for reading. :)