How Expectations Limit Creativity and Personal Liberation

When we expect something to happen or someone to do something, we create resistance to the natural flow of infinite possibilities.

Darren Stehle
Nov 8, 2020 · 7 min read

Expectations are artificial projections onto the external world about something we want to force into being — either unrealistic expectations of ourselves or limitations we attempt to umbrella over others.

Expectations Nourish the Ego’s Need for Control.

Expectations are narratives grounded in presumptions and projected into a conditional future.

This person had better do what I told them to do because…

Expectations limit the possibility of an organic outcome which is why they can never be perfectly met.

You will never live up to the expectations they have of you.

Expectations Are Contrivances of the Ego.

Selfish needs can only be met by the self.

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My very best friend and mentor — January, 2011

The Natural State of Flow — The Antidote to Expectations

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The state of creativity is the highest form of humanity.

Our Awareness of Ego Sets Us Apart From All Other Beings.

Oneness is the awareness that we are of this world and that we play a part in its machinations.

Our natural state is one of allowing.

Good fortune happens with present-moment intentionality and attention to what you are doing.

You can only be in this moment, now, doing one thing with intention and attention.

We are naturally creative beings. Creativity is not borne of expectations.

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