So, you feel stuck …
We’ve all been there, days were nothing goes your way, and the things you try are leading you nowhere.
No worries, I understand.
The fastest way I learned to change this feeling and see different results, is to create positive momentum.
What is positive momentum, you ask?
Well, let’s talk about momentum in the personal development context. I have learned that momentum is the feeling you are moving towards somewhere by the result of your actions.
When the feeling was good for me, then I classified it as positive momentum because you are moving to where you want to go. That is, in different areas of your life, your health, relationships, career, finances, etc.
On the other hand, when the feeling is negative, then it was negative momentum. Examples of these feelings may include feeling stuck, unhappy, and unfulfilled. In other words, you are moving away from what you want.
So, today, I will share some things I learned in my journey creating and keeping positive momentum.
Let’s get started.
Know Where You Want To Go
I have learned that not knowing where you want to go, that can set you up to create negative momentum. Because you are just reacting to life, but not deliberately living. Hence, you go with the flow, and you find yourself in situations that don’t make you happy.
So, to create positive momentum, you need to understand what makes you happy in all areas of your life.
“If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else. “ — Yogi Berra
What makes me happy in __________?
The blank can be filled with career, relationships, lifestyle, hobbies, or different areas of your life.
Write down and go deep to find the things that motivate you, so you can start moving closer to the life you want.
Identify The Habits That KILL Your Positive Momentum
Another lesson when I started to create positive momentum in my life is that sometimes I created positive momentum, then I would sabotage it. I would destroy my progress by engaging in habits or behaviors that move me away to reaching my goals.
Examples of habits that kill positive momentum:
- Procrastinating excessively
- Shying away from opportunities
- Negative self-talk
- Lack of consistency
Think about killing positive momentum this way. Let’s say you started going to the gym to lose weight. Your goal is to lose 30 pounds. You lost 10 pounds. Thus, you felt good about seeing results. However, you started to eat unhealthily and ate an extra 200 calories every day.
As a result, the rate you were losing weight started to decline; it even stopped, which made you feel frustrated.
So, the key to fixing this problem is to identify the habits that sabotage your positive momentum. Then, remove them from your life and keep doing the things that help you accomplish your goals.
Take Small But DIFFERENT Steps
Do you feel stuck?
What I have learned is to take small steps. But, different steps that led me to what I wanted to achieve.
Why small steps?
Because when you feel stuck, there is going to be a high chance that you are not as motivated compared to when you started.
Thus, small steps can help you get started and moving towards the direction you want in your life.
The smaller, the better. Then as you start feeling motivated again, you can start increasing the “size” or difficulty of the steps that you are taking.
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”
— Albert Einstein
Now, I learned that the key is not the size or the amount of work you put into the actions (steps) you take, is that they are different. That is, they lead you in a different direction.
Let’s face it; we all get caught up in the routine of life. As a result, we may act subconsciously, do things the same way, drive to work using the same route, and other day to day things.
I learned that doing the same things that don’t work is a sure-fire way to achieve the same results or sometimes, not achieving any results. Thus, feeling stuck and creating negative momentum in your life.
So, try something new!
Track And CELEBRATE Your Progress
I used to ignore recognizing and celebrating my progress. Sometimes I thought they were too small of wins and took them for granted.
I noticed that ignoring my progress killed my positive momentum and motivation because when I encountered obstacles or setbacks, I did not rejoice in the progress that I previously achieved.
So, I focused on the challenge but didn’t acknowledge or even minimized the progress I made.
“Small progress is still progress.” — Anonymous
Once I started acknowledging my progress, despite how small it seemed, I began to feel motivated to keep going. Then as I kept going, my wins began to become more significant.
Now, once I started to create positive momentum, the challenge was to keep it in my life.
Here are some things I did that you can do to keep the positive momentum going in your life:
- Keep a daily wins log — Write down every day your successes, even the smaller ones.
- Set reminders for the positive actions — You can use your phone to set reminders to do the things that help you move closer to what you want to achieve.
- Turn positive actions into habits — For the tasks that you repeatedly do that help create positive momentum, incorporate them into your daily routine. Make sure to do them at the same time every day, so it comes naturally for you to keep doing these tasks. Once they become habits, it’s going to be easier keeping the positive momentum going.
- Remove the “momentum stoppers” from your life — Remove any distractions that stop your momentum. Examples may include, putting your phone on “Do Not Disturb” mode and closing the door to your office. This will help you stay “in the zone” and help you keep the positive momentum flowing.
To create positive momentum, you need to know what you want to accomplish in your life, stop the habits that create negative momentum, and recognize the progress you are making.
Remember, recognizing the feeling is vital; if the feeling resulting from the action is good and helps move closer to achieve your goals, then keep doing it, it’s positive momentum.
On the other hand, if the feeling resulting from the action is negative and the action leads you away from your goals, then stop doing that, that’s negative momentum.
To keep the positive momentum going is essential to keep doing the actions that help you move forward, so the positive results compound and help you stay motivated to keep going.
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Disclaimer: I am not a mental health or counseling professional. These tips and advice are based on my experience and opinion as a student, tutor, teacher, and software developer. Everyone is different, so, the advice shared in this article may or may not work for you.