How To Make Success-Worthy Decisions in the Face of the Confused Mind

Decisions made in emotional high stakes will definitely fail.

Hardik Mangukiya
Jul 1 · 8 min read

“It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you get off on sometimes. What matters most is getting off. You cannot make progress without making decisions.” — Jim Rohn

Decisiveness is the crucial skill you should acquire,

In each and every step of life, you’ve to choose either this or that.

If you observe past decisions, you notice that you made lots of mistakes. Your present life is because of those experiences.

We’ve twenty problems at the same time, and each one has its challenges. Whether it’s career, relationship or business.

It’s a complicated process. Let’s learn how to make the best decisions that increase your growth.

From my observation, every choice has plus-minus, but we need to prefer the most effective plan that correlates with values, standards and goals.

Decision making is troublesome for most people, but it’s not. In every point of life, it looks arduous at first glance.

What are the most reliable ways to make decisions that actually make a difference?

You want to make the right choices that sure-fire your success, happiness and growth.

Here are some insights and best practices.

Decision Is Less Important Than Action.

Most of the situations aren’t the selection of A or B. It’s complex. You want to choose A, but it has its pluses and minuses. Maybe it’s not readily available.

We make decisions based on past experiences, emotions, thoughts and “whatever it is” points! Most people don’t think beyond “logical” factors. And that’s why most resolutions fail after a short period.

See, your decision makes a difference. Obviously. But not that much. Alone “best choice” won’t make you successful. Suppose you picked the most desirable option and you didn’t work on it. It’ll fail.

The decision is important for the time when it’s chosen. After that, it’s up to you how you take the maximum advantage.

“Unnecessary fear of a bad decision is a major stumbling block to good decisions.” — Jun Camp

Your life isn’t stagnant. It’s evolving, changing and shaping different situations. Something is beneficial for you, and some situations are agnostic. So, today’s decision will be irrelevant after 5 years. But the important thing is, you must be aware of what you’ll get.

Suppose you’ve determined to be a doctor. Now, at the first point, it takes time. Being a doctor is not everyone’s cup of tea.

You know how this profession serves, you might’ve friends who are specialists and making a nice income. Of course, this job is respected. Suppose you’re a doctor and people are waiting outside of the clinic. You’re treating the patients, and they’ll call you “Sir.” It’s a proud moment. Other people are working 10 hours a day, and still, they’re not making 50% of your income.

It comes with many benefits. It’s precious work, your life will change.

You’ve years of experience in the healthcare industry, so, you naturally take care of yourself. You can make friends and colleagues like you. You’re not just respected in local people, but your friends even admire you for having a profitable career. It leads to an extraordinary life.

We evaluate situations based on benefits, but we underestimate the hardships, personality traits, skills, life purpose and goals.

Your actions are important, not your decision.

Still, the decision-making process involves some practices. Once you decide something than be ready and work to prove your guts.

Your decisions are important only when it’s made. Once you choose to do than focus on prove that you’ve chosen the right thing.

Suppose you and your partner want to marry. But your marriage won’t be based on what decision you’re taking right now. Suppose it’ll work out or not. You both need continuous efforts to sustain togetherness.

Making decisions don’t mean it’s right or wrong for a lifetime. It depends on how you prove it.

Most people assume that decisions make all the difference. The right decision is a crucial part of life. It can break or make your future. And at some point, I agree with them. But the decision is just a choice. You choose what is best in certain situations. But in another time, it may not.

Simplicity Is The Key.

From my experience, the simple process is everything. Remember the 80/20 rule. If you figure out tiny parts of the process before making even a small choice. You’re not playing a smart game. It takes energy and time. Checking everything out is a big mistake. Instead, keep it simple.

Suppose you want to be a blogger. Then focus on important skills like content creation, writing, marketing, product development or coaching. Don’t worry about future consequences. It happens, and you can deal with it.

Being a great writer only takes excellent writing skills. That’s it. Write one blog post daily. It definitely makes a difference. Don’t worry about if it’s getting reads or views. It’ll, but your main goal is to progress as a writer.

Successful decisions focus on the central point of the story. You choose to become a batsman than focus on how to bat well. Don’t worry about whether you’ll be selected in the national team or not. Of course, it’s a different game.

Your decision should be specific, simple, clear and for the long run. Every decision must be aligned with core goals.

If you’re hitting everyone, you’re hitting no one. Choose and work on one point, one skill, on one thing at a time.

See, people want simple solutions. They don’t need perfection.

The simple decision means to focus on main points and ignore the rest of the part.

In every process, you’ll have hundreds of obstacles and distractions that tell you to stop because you’re doing wrong. Suppose you’re writing daily, but no one reads your articles. You think it’s absurd to write in the dark. You think you might lack something or you should choose something else. This leads to overthinking.

Better is, forget about everything. Trust on your determination to be a great writer. Yes, you’ll encounter lots of hassles, but if you’re master at one thing, you can outperform your competitors.

That’s the power of decision and efforts.

Decide Based On What You Can Control.

The biggest issue I confronted is, I thought everything before making even small choice. I analyzed every small detail. I ran through the plus-minus game. I did everything, but still, it’s hard.

It starts with “what if it happens…” We make vain imaginations about the future. And 80% of situations won’t even happen. Still, we make choices based on future consequences.

See, you can’t control what will happen. Logically, it’s true. Suppose it’ll happen as you’re thinking. Still, it won’t be exactly the same, right? The best option is to think about what you’ve.

Suppose you want to be a blogger. What you can control?

  • It may be your passion. You’re really interested in this profession or have an idea to help others.
  • You’re a tech professional and try different things. So, you want to be a blogger.
  • You’re a writer. So, blogging is the best choice.
  • You don’t have an idea, but still, you want to start from scratch. You’ve the interest to learn about blogging.

You’ve any reason, but you’re thinking about what you can control. Most people focus on uncontrolled situations.

Suppose you don’t know what to do. You’re stuck. Then the best thing is, quickly assess the resources. What you’ve and what is the best option.

It’s easy. If you think what is under control, you can eliminate fluff. You’re breathing in reality.

I’m not talking about extremes. Means, one advice won’t make successful decisions. Decisions are combined with many factors such as life purpose, goals, values and efforts.

If you develop healthy practices and change limiting beliefs. You can make any decisions easily.

It Should Be Realistic.

What should I mean by “realistic?”

Your decision should be based on:

Your Values.

Suppose, you’re honest, you want to learn and help, you’re committed.

As our above example, you want to be a blogger. Your values are empathy, engagement, learning, helping, and commitment. You can add.

“It is not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” — Roy Disney

Your Goals And Purposes.

It’s money, fame, skill development, learning, innovation or you can add.

Suppose you want to learn business English. Then your goal is to 3x your English, presentation and communication skills.

Your Resources.

As we’ve discussed, it depends on what you’ve. How you can achieve, how much time it takes.

“Whenever you’re making an important decision, first ask if it gets you closer to your goals or farther away. If the answer is closer, pull the trigger. If it’s farther away, make a different choice. Conscious choice making is a critical step in making your dreams a reality.” — Jillian Michaels

Let’s Choose.

The different part of the story we haven’t considered. When you choose one thing. It’s perfect for the moment, but when it’s not working, or life is not happening as you anticipated. Naturally, you tend to quit. You hate it, and you curse your situation. You blame and complaint. You think why you’ve decided to do this.

“I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we’ve to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

It’s not firm decisiveness. You may fluctuate. It depends on how circumstances happen and how you deal with it.

Few people are reading your articles don’t mean your decision of being the best writer is wrong. You can and will be.

See, emotional attacks occur. You’ve to let them pass because your thinking must be constructive, not positive or negative.

Decisions made in emotional high stakes will definitely fail.

“Unsuccessful people make decisions based on their current situation; successful people make decisions based on where they want to be.” Anonymous

Choose something that you think it’s logical and aligned with your life, you think your life will be changed after this, you believe it helps you to be the best version of yourself.

“You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.” ― Michelle Obama

You must not decide something based on emotions or logic. It must be balanced. And the most crucial part is, actually take the decision.

Most people are analytical. They think everything but split their bills. They don’t accept responsibility for life. They start and if it doesn’t work out. They’ve another thing. Plan B is practically useful, but it doesn’t work when you want to be a master at something. It takes the real work.

95% commitment is harder than 100%.

If it’s not working, and you must have to choose something else for now, then accept it. Do work for it. Because you aren’t responsible for determining the wrong thing. And there is no right or wrong. Either you’ll get it or learn it.

Don’t chase for the right decisions, chase for making it right.

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Hardik Mangukiya

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Passionate Writer, promoter of ‘Love,’ big believer of Positive Psychology and helping you to reach your full potential of self and relationships.

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