How to Master Yourself and Win at Receiving Feedback
We are often our own worst enemy when receiving feedback
A common fallacy is that humans are logical beings. Rather on the contrary our minds work in mysterious and irrational ways, in many cases human nature works against us.
Similar to giving feedback, receiving feedback effectively is often a place where we struggle. If you’re anything like me, receiving feedback can be uncomfortable and often emotional, even with the best intentions for personal growth it can still be hard to stay objective and keep your cool. Unfortunately for us, that’s just human nature — we are often our own worst enemies.
This inner struggle is real, we are in some ways fighting a battle within ourselves against our irrational behaviours, counterintuitive to what we are trying to achieve — what can we do about it? — I went looking for answers and I found them in the world of behavioural psychology.
The Feedback Staircase
Feedback can be uncomfortable at the best of times. When we receive feedback, particularly constructive feedback, often we take it personally — feel the need to defend ourselves or justify our actions. All these reactions are completely normal and simply part of the feedback process.
