How to Overcome the Regret of Losing the Most Valuable Assets
I lost three thousand and five hundred euros in the most critical phase of my life. It was a time when my family and I needed that money most. For days, I walked in the wilderness regretting and mourning my loss. I didn’t get back this money, but I learned a valuable lesson.
Behind the scenario…
The probability of finding a student job with no knowledge of the French language in minor cities of France is almost null. As a master’s student in France, I have struggled to find a student job in the last two years. If tuition fees were not heavily subsidized (243 Euro per year) by the Government of France and universities were as expensive as in America and Australia, I would have quit my study and left the French territory long back.
The government in France refunds around 25% of the monthly rent as housing assistance to families with low family quotients (it means you had a low income in the last year), primarily CAF. Still, my basic monthly expense in a Tier 3 city amounts to 350 Euro per month, which has made my life financially miserable. I wish I could speak French.
In January 2020, I worked as a kitchen helper in a restaurant. After working for a few weeks, my hands experienced excessive dryness because of soap and detergents used while cleaning utensils during duty hours. As I was not used to such continuous heavy work, I experienced fatigue. This forced me to quit the restaurant job at the end of February.
It wasn’t lockdown, it was luck down.
I was searching for another job when a pandemic forced France to impose a lockdown on its territory. All business and services were closed, leaving no option for me to find any job.
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
– Thomas A. Edison
As part of the social security relief, the French government continued to provide a salary to affected workers who had a valid contract. The government paid my colleagues who were working in the restaurant under this act. Unfortunately, I was not eligible for the fund because I had resigned from the job 15 days back as I was no longer an employee.
Had I not left the job, I would have received 700*5 =3500 Euros. This amount would fund my living for the next eight to nine months.
As a human, it is normal to be greedy for monetary opportunities we could have owned. A soul within me thought, “Had I knew about this opportunity, I would have struggled for 15 more days and have lived with no worry today.” I regret this missed opportunity for a few days until I consoled myself with reality.
While working in a restaurant, I had many dreams. It is a dream to live an easier life while I study, a dream of sharing some money, and a dream to gift my beloved wife. I also had carried a plan to meet her and go on a vacation (It is already two years since I last met her). But those days in the restaurant were so hectic and a nightmare. Working one more hour was literally impossible. I was enormously tired. My dry hands were bleeding. Those soap chemicals burned bleeding parts while washing utensils.
Life for me was so painful that I wanted to quit work as early as possible. I was ready to stay with a hungry stomach rather than working for one more day. So I surrendered to my pain and quit that job.
I let regret go away.
Three thousand and five hundred Euros could have addressed my immediate problems in a large context, but what has gone will never come back. COVID-19 will be memorable to me for missed opportunities.
But 3500 Euros was not the only opportunity I missed in my life. I kept mourning every lost opportunity for years, wishing my life would have changed if I hadn’t missed those golden eggs.
I know I shouldn’t be sad anymore. I should let that go forever.
I regretted those missed opportunities, but I knew that I might not be in the proper state of mental health if I kept remembering them. Mental instability means I will miss many upcoming opportunities. I knew I shouldn’t be sad anymore. I should let my regret go forever.
I did. I choose an excellent lesson to remember from my bad days.
You choose what you want next.
A successful motivational speaker may give his seven remarkable successful advice to you, but they won’t work unless you let past regret and burden go forever. You should stop regretting and let regret go forever. You are a master of your thought, and you choose what you want next.
“I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore, choose life, that you and your offspring may live,” — Deut 30:19, The Holy Bible.
Some people believe in destiny overpowering our life. Even I believe in destiny. There are also factors like your economic conditions, your physical strength, and your family situation that defines how you live. Happiness can’t exist while we regret. Past is past. You don’t have a time machine, and thus you can’t alter your past. Face those results. Face those past. The best option for life would be to stop regretting.
Regretting won’t do any good. It will never. I have learned my lesson and choose my next step. You decide what you do.