How To Set and Enforce Boundaries Without Feeling Bad
4 simple steps for a happier self.
Personal boundaries are key to any healthy relationship between two human beings. Without clear rules, you’ll spend more time arguing than enjoying the game.
Your boundaries are the limits you set with other people and the rules they have to adhere to if they want to be part of your life.
They can be simple and obvious, like not calling someone names in public or not flirting with his girlfriend. But they can also be more complicated and hard to define, like when your friend blames you for not giving them money when they’re broke or pesters you with their unsolicited opinion about your abortion.
Whether small or big, setting and enforcing them is an act of self-respect and will improve your life in multiple ways.
They give you a better sense of self and higher self-esteem. When you stick to your own rules, you learn to trust yourself.
You’ll also conserve lots of emotional energy. No more arguing back and forth with others. Clear rules, clear decisions.
Last but not least, you’ll become more independent. Build your own life and set your own rules, and you’ll be less likely to dance to others’ tunes.
