How You Can Free Yourself From Limiting Beliefs

Change your mind, change your life.

Dayana Sabatin
May 22, 2020 · 5 min read
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a few words, limiting beliefs hold you back from your fullest potential.

We are only capable of seeing what we believe to be true.

This could be in regards to your health, your relationships, your job.

Everything that you believe to be negative about yourself is always what you see in the mirror.

All throughout my teen years, I struggled with insecurities. I had daddy issues, I had mommy issues, I was overly jealous and I lacked self-esteem. I created myself out to be somebody who wasn’t worthy of much because I didn’t ever look at the big picture.

I considered my appearance, I considered my level of intelligence, I considered my weight and allowed those things to be what make me an individual.

If you compared a glass of water to a human being, I was always empty.

Whenever I came across somebody who was good looking, I tucked myself into my shell thinking I wasn’t attractive.

When I came across somebody who was extremely smart and did math in their sleep, I thought I was the dumbest kid on the block.

When I saw girls in Victoria Secret magazines that looked like they weighed 7 pounds, I thought I was borderline obese.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

We tell ourselves stories of who we are based on corrupt things, and then we affirm our sense of self based on those stories.

Eventually, we justify those stories in order to make sense of our lives and the negative aspects of it.

At the end of the day, limiting beliefs are simply ideas we crawl into bed with in the hopes of being comforted by them because we are unhappy with our life choices.

“I’m never going to be that smart so that’s why I’m not going to try to build this business.”

“I’ll never be thin so it’s fine to have 10 tubs of ice cream for breakfast.”

How long have you been using those excuses?

How long have you been struggling mentally, physically, financially? How long have you told yourself “It’s fine,” in order to make yourself feel better about a decision you’re about to make when deep down you know it’s the wrong one?

How long have you been a prisoner to the ideas you have formulated about yourself that you now believe to be your identity?

It’s time for you to change and embrace a new narrative. It’s time to reprogram your thoughts and enhance your life.

A Limiting Belief Is Just A Fear of Something

Limiting beliefs are literally fears that you have placed inside yourself. They are words and negative comments you have either heard or thought of and you claim that you are one with them, when in reality, it’s simply your fears getting in your head.

I believe in the power of manifestation, and if you aren’t careful it’s very much possible to manifest negativity in your life. I did it for years without realizing it.

The thing is, the moment we say something negative about ourselves, we internalize that idea and we begin seeing it and believing it.

You don’t see the attractive and smart individual that you are, you see the fat and dumb person that you keep calling yourself.

If you want to change and reprogram your mindset for the better, you’ll need to start making an active choice every day to always look at yourself in the best light there is.

Your Words Have Power

A few months ago I incorporated a new morning ritual.

During my journaling session, I write out my affirmations and things I believe to be true of myself and things that I want to see myself as.

Every morning I turn every negative thought I once had into a positive one.

Every “dumb” into “intelligent” every “ugly” into “beautiful” every “average” into “exceptional.”

At the end of the day, your words have the most power and eventually, your brain will work to affirm whatever it is that you want to be true.

Eventually, you’re going to start acting like you’re the smartest person in the room — because you are. And do you know what smart people do? They read. They work. They strive to be a better version of themselves every single day.

I mentioned earlier my struggle with weight — I have never been obese, but I did have body dysmorphia. There were times when the thought of a chair breaking under me would cross my mind. It didn’t matter what anybody would tell me, it didn’t matter how healthy I ate or how often I went to the gym, I was the one who was in control of my mind and I was the one feeding my brain lies about my body.

You don’t want to live like that. Choose to change your mindset, choose to look at yourself in a better light. The way to do this is to reprogram your thoughts. Start making the mental switch to slowly turn every negative thought into a positive one.

The more positivity you reinforce in your life, the more self love you will pour out upon yourself.

Eventually, you will seek out reasons to love yourself, you will seek out the positive dips and curves on your body. You will learn to love yourself like you never have before. And all those negative thoughts you once had that made you feel unworthy and not attractive? You’ll come to find out that they were just negative fears that you had to cut out of your life.

You Are In Control

The power of your mind is indescribable. You can change the course of your entire life by one mental switch.

Think of a toddler, if you constantly tell them that they can’t do something their entire life, they won’t even try. They will believe you and think they are incapable. They’ll waste their entire life believing you because you told them they couldn’t every day and it became engraved in their mind.

What if you did the opposite? What if every single day, you told that toddler that they were going to amount to something incredible? What if you spoke words of wisdom and support to them every single day?

What are the chances of them doing something incredible?

If you spend your whole life thinking you’re unworthy, thinking you’re not smart enough to pursue anything and you weren’t meant for anything grand, you will end up living a crappy if not mediocre life.

If you reprogram your mind to start thinking positively, if you spend your time acknowledging how smart you are, aspiring to be better, discovering your fullest potential, you will be on the road to greatness.

Your beliefs are what structure your life and it’s time to structure it the right way.

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Dayana Sabatin

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The Ascent

A community of storytellers documenting the journey to happiness & fulfillment. Join thousands of others making the climb on Medium.

Dayana Sabatin

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Writer sharing thoughts on self-improvement and relationships. Connect with me: https://bit.ly/2Xj9WsX IG: dayana_sabatin YT: https://bit.ly/3q4mi4E

The Ascent

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