I Hated Change — But Moved Across 3 Continents, Switched 4 Different Jobs and Started 4 Companies

Ramesh Dontha
Mar 21, 2019 · 6 min read
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Growing up in a small rural village in the southern part of India, all I wanted was to get a job as a teacher, like my father. When my father got transferred to another school in another village, I hated that move. All my friends were gone. We needed to rent another ramshackle house. I hated everything about that move. I just hated change.

Here I am now in the United States. The memory of that village was long gone. Apart from India, I lived in Europe for some time and finally moved to the USA for good. By the way, I never applied for that teacher job.

I initially moved from a village to a town for college and finally to Bombay (Mumbai) for my first job. From there to Europe and finally to the US on work projects. I switched around 4 large companies, got an MBA in between and managed to start 4 different companies.

So a person who inherently and passionately hated change ended up with so much change? And more importantly, how did I manage so much change in my life? I didn’t explicitly realize the enormity of this change until I started researching into why people make changes (or don’t).

First, let me answer the question of why

Almost all the changes I made in my life fell into 2 broad categories.

Intentional changes

Later on, I chose to join a business school to get an MBA while I was working as a Systems Analyst. You can read more about that decision in this article. The exact reason for that choice was more of anxiety that my skill set might become obsolete in the future but I deliberately chose to leave my job and join a full-time MBA program.

The last example I will give was my choice to leave the corporate world and go full time as an entrepreneur. Reason for this choice was the realization that my passion at that stage of my life was elsewhere doing different things.

Changes because of Life changing events

Underlying Causes of All Those Changes

Unhappy with the status quo:

Looking for new challenges:

Anxiety about the future:

Personal Passion:

Yes, change is hard. I had so many excuses at every step not to make that change. But it’d have been even harder if I did not make those changes and I’d have been very unhappy with myself (this I know for sure).

Why People Don’t Make Changes?

People don’t know how to sustain motivation

People have the desire but not the tools (mindset, energy, know-how, support etc.) to create change

What people thought they wanted isn’t turning out to be right, but they don’t pivot

People’s confidence has been flattened and they don’t know how to rebuild it

New life challenges bubble up to shift their priorities

To repeat my earlier assertion, change is hard. But we’ll realize that the consequences of not making those changes will be much, much harder. Sure I hated change but it was absolutely necessary for me to make all the changes I made in my life to become a ‘better me.’

So where are you in your stage of life? Comfortable where you are? That’s perfectly fine. But if you are looking for a change for any reason, whether you are unhappy your circumstances, your passion lies somewhere else, or you just want new challenges, don’t be afraid to take that additional step.

You’ll persevere. You’ll land on your feet. Just look at me. I’d still be somewhere in that remote village in India if I had not taken that initial step.

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Ramesh Dontha

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