If You’re Missing This One Thing, You’ll Fail at Your Goals — Just Like Last Year

The thing is not the thing: A coach’s perspective on setting meaningful, intentional goals for what they will make of you.

Darren Stehle
Jan 11 · 9 min read

As objectively as I could write the last paragraph, it’s no wonder that the slide into 2021 was a non-event for many.

Later in the day, I wrote in my journal, “What’s missing from my 2020 review?”

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Moving from 2020 to 2021, or any new year, is a social construction.

Many coaches launch a “New Year, New You” type of program.

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There is no going back to what was once normal. Why not consider why there’s so much fuss and confusion around setting goals as well?

Life is like a river and life works out best if you move with the constancy and direction of the current.

The reason why I didn’t offer a way forward as part of my 2020 Personal Evolution Process Review is two-fold.

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But what about goals? How will I know what to focus on?

Please understand that there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t reach one or any of your goals.

Think not about possessing the thing, the result, state, or physical object that takes the form of the goal as what’s truly important or meaningful.

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