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Imprisoning Our Emotions

Learning about emotional blocks can be an enlightening self learning tool that can really help with giving ourselves a view that may had once often been neglected. Those blocks can represent defense mechanisms that our instincts construct in order to protect us from emotional struggle or pain. Sometimes the brain definitely has good intentions, but doing maneuvers that are powered off of instinct tend to sometimes follow a path that seems more subconscious and automatic. We know we have to have a more real time approach. Sometimes we just can’t trust our subconscious self to make decisions this important. We need to get hands on.

The last thing we want to happen is for our emotional blocks to just continue on their merry way, keeping issues numbed and buried. If anything, they need to be out in sight, and unburied. I recently began a process of studying the specifics on emotional blocks. I was able to get a good look at my own life, and it quickly became clear to me that I was able to identify my own emotional blocking. I was quite guilty of it.

I want to reiterate and refresh everyone, by sharing how Vitality Magazine Contributor Debbie Papadakis defined emotional blocking. “Emotional blocks are created by past negative experiences, unresolved emotions, self-defeating behaviors/patterns and self-limiting beliefs which are counter intentions that contribute to self-sabotage. They act as a defense mechanism to deal with deep emotional pain experienced in traumatic, destructive, and dysfunctional situations ranging from the loss of a loved one, betrayal, abuse, rejection, and so on.

She has the definition quite clear and as descriptive as it can get.

Many of may be able to understand how emotion blocks are defined, as well as how they pertain to ourselves. Once we can identify them, we can then began a process of working through them. However, are there warning signs? Are there things about us that should be considered red flags. Can we identify emotional blocks in action? Can we also learn to be warned of new ones potentially developing? Many experts say, yes.

Emotional blocks can come disguised. What we may connect to other type of physical or mental health issues, may be incorrectly labeled. The signs can mimic several other conditions. But that shouldn’t sway anyone from taking a second look.

Fatigue is a popular one. As I just mentioned, signs that we are blocking emotions comes in broad signs, just like this one. Whatever the case may be, anytime there is an issue of fatigue, always take a second look, if that fatigue becomes chronic. It’s a common issue we all face from time to time. But shouldn’t last at levels that are chronic in length.

A majority of the other signs are a bit more focused on more specific issues then the last one of “fatigue.” I strongly relate to these next ones here. Those who tend to be “yes people,” or people pleasers show is a strong sign of having emotional blocks.

I had this terrible trait for a longtime myself, and when I look at everything now, I see that I agree that I was having issues with my own emotions. I can go with the popular term of blocking, and I’d also call it numbing and masking. Every time I was pleasing someone else, I wasn’t pleasing myself. Being a doormat unfortunately, kept me from processing my own thoughts.

There’s another trait that is a bit of a connection from the people pleasing trait. That is one that puts us in a role that resembles being a pushover; another version of being a doormat. We just never can say no, we can never use honesty in expressing our feelings to others; especially when we are upset with someone, and we just keep on going with a fake smile, acting like we aren’t upset or angry with anyone.

This trait can soon become a pressure cooker. If we’re unhappy or angry with a loved one, and we’re afraid to be honest about it, all that will come from this, is resentment that will grow in strength the longer we pretend everything is perfectly fine.

Sometimes we can even weigh our presence of emotional blocking potential if we look at relationships we’re in. That too, can mirror that door mat, or yes man, type of scenarios.

The thing that can happen here is, we may become martyrs with our mates. It becomes extremely one sided in so many ways. Doing lots of favors, and helping the other person out. Although I don’t like the world “helping” because it’s the furthest thing from help for either side. It becomes very unhealthy, as it can turn into a rabbit hole in the sense where we’re doing everything for the other person. We go on being unappreciated, taken for granted, taken advantage of and no amount of good we ever do is ever enough.

On the other side of the extreme, we may find ourselves into the hells of abusive relationships with any of the several types of amount of abuse. While all of this may keep our emotional blocks out of thought, and off the top of our heads, those blocks are still, doing that pressure cooker action inside us.

One final thing to be aware of, is sometimes things like perfectionism might be related to emotional blocking. It isn’t always one of the gold standards for signs of it, but if perfectionism may be an issue, be mindful. Sometimes perfectionism can be okay and justified, when it comes to things like school, or projects at work. However, it’s unhealthy if it’s overly obsessive or time consuming beyond reasonable levels.

Emotional blocking can be consuming, but none of this piece, is meant to give any perceptions that it can’t be overcome. I have dealt with my own problems like these often times through life, and the processes of overcoming them, have been great learning experiences offering multiple awakenings, in so many different eras in life. If you’re dealing with this, work on it, process it, and get back to enjoying your life. Don’t be a prisoner to your mind.

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Michael Patanella

Michael Patanella

Author, Publisher, and Editor. I cover mindfulness, mental health, addiction, sobriety, life, and spirituality among other things. MichaelPatanella.medium.com

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