“Life Is Like A Box Of Chocolate. You never Know What You’re Gonna Get”…Unless you Read The Label

You choose your future. Don’t leave it down to fate.

Mornings can be bad. Evenings can be bad. Days, weeks, months. Coming off the end of a “bad” week, weighing up the positives and negatives, what I’ve learnt, what I’ve achieved, these “bad” weeks are the ones that shape you into who you are and who you want to be.

Looking back, I’ve deducted things that I knew and believed, but can always do with a bit of reinforcement:-

• Mates are there for you no matter what and can bring you out of the darkest times, even if it seems impossible to get out of.
• You know what is right and wrong to you. Letting someone try to control you and decide what you want brings you away from the True You.
• A negative few hours doesn’t create a negative day, a negative few days doesn’t create a bad week, and so on.
• Even in the bleakist of times when all seems lost, you know what makes you happy, and battling for this is crucial for the aftermath of the storm.
• People want to know the bad side of you. Basic human nature is to want to help people in the best way they know how. Just make sure you know deep down the people you are truly doing everything for.
• Find that light in the dark days. Use it to pull you out of the darkness.

Always coming across as a constantly happy, optimistic individual, means when the bad days come, it feels as if the 25 good weeks are mirrored negatively with the same force in this 1 bad week. But to become stronger mentally, you need to fight these battles. Not only fight, but win. Losing means being back to where you started, which should never be the case. Believe in yourself if nothing else through these days.

A quick sum-up of last week is having an amazing date Monday; realising on Tuesday financial situations are dire and dreams have to be put on hold against every hope in my body, and gathering myself to go to the girls house with the constant niggle in my brain’s heart; Wednesday trying not to be down but having a conscience fighting against it; Thursday feeling all hope is lost with every dream and aspect of my life, only to be pulled out of darkness by one of the closest people to my heart, then coincidences carry on to be inspired by another; Friday the belief is restored, the girl my “evil state” tried to self-destruct was revived (and then destroyed), niggles are being unwound only to be replaced by other horrors; Saturday contained confusion, work, sorting out difficulties, then meeting again with the girl positively, resulting in a complete rush of optimism from random happenings, ending the night with realisation that this girl was definitely not for me; ending with a comfortable day of being myself, self-motivation, family, a delicious roast, and complete belief and revival from every situation that has tried to knock me down this week.

I felt lower last week than I have in 54 weeks. But analysing why this has happened to me, I can see I needed every aspect of this week to bring me to the state I am now, with the upmost desire and drive to become the greatest me I can possibly be.

Life can pull you in hundreds and thousands of different directions, but once the wheel is grabbed and you decide which direction you are heading towards, your goal becomes a destination, your passion becomes desire, your anger and confusion fades.

You are in control of your destiny. If someone tries to alter your course, carry them with you to your destination. However, if they want and believe something different, trying to pull them along can only result in misdirection and a destination neither of you desire.

“Life Is Like A Box Of Chocolate. You never Know What You’re Gonna Get”.
You can pull a chocolate out, be pleasantly surprised, or be disgusted immediately. But reading the label can save you from any despair and bring you the joy that you ultimately deserve.

Every single decision you make is your decision. Reprocussions will always occur (otherwise known as your future). One tiny change in a response, timing, anything, can drastically affect your future. So thinking about even the minute details, the moments that seem to take a lifetime to decipher, can put you at a higher state once you pull out of this storm.

I can’t exactly can say I feel stronger than ever before, mainly because a great relationship has ended seemingly before it’s even started. But I can say I’m ready to take the sword I’ve been handed to fight my battles, and use it to hold my ground, making every moment of my future brighter than I would have ever have imagined.

I have no idea what the future holds. But as long as I keep growing and use these challenges to better myself, I know the strength I receive will take me to the absolute Me, the better Me, the ultimate Me, the Me that looks itself in the mirror and says “all these dumb days that I have battled through have put me on the throne I am sitting on today”.

Here’s to the future 🍻

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself” — George Bernard Shaw