Love: A Feeling or a Choice?
He sat in my office, hunched over with his arms resting on his knees.
“But I love her.”
As a Therapist, It was something I had heard before when someone is talking about a mistake they made followed by, “but I love her/him.”
“Are you good at it?” I asked him.
He didn’t know how to respond; he just stared blankly at me and asked, “What do you mean?”
I have heard this response in my office for over nine years ago, but it is part of the age-old question.
What is love?
The two most common answers people hear about or read about are that love is a feeling or that love is a choice, and this bothers me. Not because love as a feeling or a choice is wrong or even a bad thing, it’s because it’s not the whole thing.
Perception 1: Love Is A Feeling
A lot of people accept love as a feeling and think nothing more of it. They can feel it in their hearts, and they know when they know. Love isn’t complicated; it’s simple. Look no further than any Disney movie. Just follow your heart.
The Problem With A Feeling
Viewing love as a feeling can be detrimental to relationships that depend on that feeling. The honeymoon effect…
