Our Suffering

Michael Patanella
Sep 21, 2018 · 4 min read

Suffering is a completely normal part of our lives, and no matter how perfect any of our lives can be, there will still be times of suffering. Suffering can come on so many different levels, from a minor illness, to the suffering that comes from a major lose, like the passing away of a parent of spouse. Most times, suffering can come on instant and strong, but, is slowly healed through time. Being mindful of our suffering, and being able to determine if we’re losing control of our suffering is crucial. Reason being, it can overtake our entire lives in a very unhealthy, debilitating manor if we start to lose grip.

Mindfulness can be the key, to being able to let go of our suffering. If not, we may spend the rest of our lives treating our suffering like a hundred ton anchor.

First, what we need to be able to do, is accept the presence of our suffering. Try to take a look at it, as an outsider looking in. Observe the suffering. Note its origin, its strength, whether or not it fits the scenario, and determining if it is suffering that is overtaking life in a detrimental way. Are we at handling suffering in a healthy manner, or are we instead, remaining stuck from progressing?

Like mentioned earlier, suffering is a normal part of life, and we must expect life to be tough like that sometimes. It’s a middle ground that we should work to search for. It’s unhealthy to both ignore the suffering, while it’s also unhealthy to let the suffering overwhelm all aspects of life. We want to find that area, where we experience and feel our suffering. Not mask or numb it. Bear witness to it. Don’t push it away without processing it. Nor do we want to block it.

This can be a period of time, where the risk of illicit drug or alcohol abuse potential may be near its strongest. Experience the emotion. Do an inventory and outline of it, determining what situation or event caused it. Is it something worthy of the suffering. Be sure it is exaggerated. Then, we must work to find out what kind of process will be required to get through it, and then let it go. Sometimes we may be able to handle it on our own. Though other times, we may require professional help. It can be a tough determination to make, though extremely important.

One of the most important things that I learned from this topic, and it’s what most related curriculums teach; is We are not our emotions. And just because we feel or think an emotion, doesn’t mean that it’s right. Remember that as we contemplate whether or not to act on our emotions.

We must use caution, and find the self control needed to ceasing a reaction type of response. Just because we are angry, doesn’t mean we can go around breaking things. Nor can we go around punching people, just because we may be angry at them.

Realize when you are experiencing and suffering from a negative emotion, that, there are still plenty of times where you experience happy positive emotions as well.

When we successfully accept an emotion, we are then willing to let go and leave behind any emotion that is a waste. One that takes up space, and not needed. It’s an emotion that can disable us, as we work to approach more positive, and or useful emotions. Suffering will most certainly happen, when we are unable to let go what needs to be let go of. Walking away from those type of things, are quite empowering.

Willing to accept, is an equivalent to a growth in maturity. It’s a farewell to useless drama. It’s a giving away of that hundred ton anchor. We no longer, have to get stuck walking nowhere, glued to the same old place.

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Author, Publisher, and Editor. I cover mindfulness, mental health, addiction, sobriety, life, and spirituality among other things. MichaelPatanella.medium.com

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