Plot Twist: The Only One Stopping You From Doing What You Love is You
No one’s asking you to start big, just that you start.
Humans complicate things that should be easy.
We turn small problems into undefeatable issues, stress too much about things we should be pushing aside with no sweat, and get overwhelmed easily when the simple solution is to organize and begin.
The worst part is that we do this to our goals and dreams.
Writing a book, building a house, or becoming a famous painter are aims anyone can obtain if they put their minds to it and work hard. And yet, you’ve probably thought that yours are impossible to achieve.
I’ve always found that amusing — when someone says that a goal that someone else has already attained is out of the question for them.
If it’s already been done by someone else, it’s not impossible for you to do too. Even if it’s never been done before, it’s still not beyond the bounds of possibility.
You’re making your goal scarier than it needs to be
Risking everything to live a life doing what you love is always going to be scary, but you’re making it seem more terrifying than it is.
You’re looking at your dream as if it has bloodied teeth and could tear you apart. Really, it’s waiting for you with an extended hand. All you have to do is take the first step toward it.
Some days, 24 hours is too much to stay put in, so I take the day hour by hour, moment by moment. I break the task, the challenge, the fear into small, bite-size pieces.
— Regina Brett
When you think about the vision you have for yourself and your life, and all of the steps you need to take toward it, your palms get a little sweaty, and your heart starts pounding harder.
You’re so frightened that you stop the thoughts in their tracks and get back to reality, to the life you dislike.
You could never do it. Can you really start your business today? Can you start writing the poetry book? Can you actually start selling your art online in the next hour?
No, you think. So you don’t — because you’ve made shit harder than it needs to be.
You’re the only one stopping you
Taking a risk to do what you’ve always wanted is scary, but it’s not that scary. The difficulty isn’t what’s stopping you from doing what you love.
You’re the only one in your way; your thoughts and feelings are the ropes holding you back. You are the obstacle.
You’ve turned your desire into a problem; one that you’re too scared to deal with.
You’re letting quotes like, go all in, have no plan be, go big or go home, stop you from focusing on just one tiny movement.
Maybe, if you put your disbelief aside, roll up your sleeves, take some risks, and totally go for it, you’ll wake up one day and realise you’re living the kind of life you used to be jealous of.
— Jen Sincero
It’s you whose complicating things and overwhelming yourself. Not anyone else. Not something else.
If you want to start working toward your goals, it’s time you accept that, and get out of your goddamn way.
No one’s asking you to start big, just that you start
You think that to aim for a vast hope of yours you have to run to the edge of the cliff and jump even if you don’t see a net at the bottom.
But know this: no one’s saying you have to go all in yet, just that you take the first baby step.
You don’t have to take a huge leap right now. Just put one foot in front of the other first.
“One step is better than no steps.”
— Carlino Brockway
Forget all of the things you have to do to succeed in your ventures. Don’t think about any of the steps that have been overwhelming you.
Focus only on the first thing you have to do. And then do it.
It might not sound like a lot. You might believe it will have no impact, but no matter how short your step, you’re one place closer than you were yesterday.
You’re also ahead of all the other people who don’t dare to even think about their inner fantasies.
You don’t have to quit your job yet. You don’t even have to tell your friends and family what you’re doing. You don’t have to work fifteen hours straight on your first day.
Just… come up with an idea. Buy a domain. Start working on a short story. Buy a camera. Sketch. Try cooking the recipe you came up with. Draft an article.
Start small. And keep that momentum going until you can finally start taking more significant steps.