Stop Wasting Your Life and Start Spending Your Time Wisely
“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.”
We are all familiar with the days where we spend all our time doing nothing productive, only to return from our daydreams and back to reality once the whole day has passed.
If we instead want to spend our days doing something productive, we need to have aspirations and a clear vision of where we want to be. Nothing makes us feel more motivated than knowing who we want to become in life.
Creating reasonable goals
Reasonable goals do not mean simple or average. They can sound completely out of reach, and still, be reasonable.
We should never settle for the easy goals — because they will ultimately not make us feel the same amount of satisfaction as the goals that require hard work.
If we pick these simple goals, then we won’t feel like it’s a challenge to get to the results. This becomes a problem when we set ourselves goals to work towards to give us purpose.
If there’s no hard work or obstacles we have to face, then the goals won’t serve their intended purpose.
Taking a break — within reason
When we’re constantly working, regardless of what we’re working on, it’s good to take a break and recharge our batteries now and then.
If we don’t have any concrete plans, then a quick break can easily turn into a full day of getting nothing done.
This is why it’s good to stay organised. When we have blank space in our calendars and don’t have any plans, we tend to spend most of our time doing things we shouldn’t.
This includes both doing nothing or spending a lot of money online shopping, which we otherwise wouldn’t spend. Aspirations, passions, hobbies and goals are what should fill this blank space with.
Sometimes we do need to take time off if we’ve been working particularly hard. We just need to find a work-life balance and figure out what works best for us and what fits with our lives and schedules.
Valuing our time
Regardless of what we’re doing, we should never waste our time by spending it doing nothing of value. Everything we do should be done with both consideration and moderation.
It’s ok to have a day full of shopping because we can get our money back. The problem is that we can’t get our time back. When we spend time doing things we know we shouldn’t, then we are taking our time for granted.
This is especially true for teenagers and young adults who tend to spend a lot of time watching TV, playing video games or partying. The key is to evaluate what we truly want to spend time doing, and what we can eliminate from our schedule.
We must try our best to put our time to good use. Our time on this earth is limited, so we have to make the best out of the time we have. We shouldn’t settle for low-paying jobs, bad relationships, dishonest friends or anything that doesn’t make us feel good, because there simply isn’t enough time.
“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot” — Michael Altshuler
Goals are no part-time job
If we’re determined to achieve something, and we feel passionate towards achieving it, then we shouldn’t view our goals as part-time jobs.
If we want to lose weight, and we’re determined to do so, then we can’t simply choose to focus on what we eat between 09:00–12:00 on Mondays and Wednesdays. It has to be in our thoughts constantly, and eating healthy has to become a habit and a part of our day-to-day lives.
Goals are supposed to be hard to reach; that’s the point of them. We shouldn’t feel like our ambitions are not worth it because they require our full and undivided attention. That is what they are there for.
Regardless of what we set out to do; we can expect to feel discouraged from time to time, and that’s out of our control. The point is that we shouldn’t feel like giving up when tough times hit.
We can’t spend our time any better way than by striving towards our goals and doing what we love. We must find something that we truly love and feel passionate about. Once we do, we can spend a whole lifetime pursuing it and still feel as though our time was spent wisely.
Making promises we can keep
We shouldn’t expect to achieve more than what we believe to be possible. The same goes for making promises to other people as it does to ourselves.
If we promise that we can get a lot of things done when we don’t think we can, then we end up disappointing the person we promised. This has a name, and it’s called overpromising.
It means that we will probably feel less valued, and they won’t take anything we do seriously. What we need to do instead of overpromising is promise less and deliver more.
It’s good to make promises because it gives as a goal. If we know that we can deliver more than we initially set out to accomplish, then we feel even more motivated to work harder.
“Quickest way to build trust: Keep promises you make, don’t over-promise. Over-deliver, don’t under-deliver. If you say you’ll do something, make sure you do but if things then run late or go wrong, tell your client at the earliest opportunity.”
— Phil Harding
Handling the jealousy
Unfortunately, we will meet many people on our way towards our goals with average goals and low standards. We shouldn’t let them drag us down if we’re aiming for more than them.
These people will often question why we’re aiming for goals so ambitious. They want to know why we work so hard. When we’re questioned on this, it becomes easy for us to believe that maybe our goals are too high.
They may influence us to believe that we’re putting in unnecessary amounts of work, because they aren’t working as hard as us, and they are just as happy.
We must understand that those people are indirectly talking to themselves, trying to convince themselves why they settled for less, and why they gave up so easily.
It’s not on us if they feel as though they failed because they didn’t have as much work ethic. They feel reminded of that fact when they speak to us and see that we haven’t given up.
They chose to settle for less, and they might be jealous of us, but there is nothing we can do about it. We shouldn’t let them make us feel like we’re doing the wrong thing.
We should just move on and continue working towards our goals.
When we work hard towards something, it becomes easy to view any setbacks as fails, and in turn, we might choose to give up. If we’re feeling unsure of ourselves, it can be easy to forget that failing is only helping us move forward.
When we fail, we learn new things, and they allow us to continue to grow. If we fail and give up, then we end up right back on square one and we’ll have to start all over again.
In other words, we don’t fail because we’re met with an obstacle or a problem that hits us down a notch. We can only, and will only fail if we decide to give up.
It’s good to fail because we grow our knowledge and gain a better perspective as well as an appreciation for what we’re doing. We can’t feel like our setbacks are reasons for us to give up. They are reasons for us to keep going.
“Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”
— Nelson Mandela