The Stupid Reason I Almost Quit Blogging After Two Weeks
And how you can avoid my mistake
I’m cringing at the thought of writing these words. I’m cringing even more at the thought of you reading them.
You see a few weeks ago I almost gave up on my brief dalliance into the blogging world and it would have been the easiest thing I’ve ever done.
I’m not quite sure what I was expecting when I launched my blog.
Confetti falling from the sky perhaps? Hundreds of people flocking to read my writing and pat me on the back for a job well done?
It wasn’t that I was expecting it so much as I was hoping for it. Why? Because that’s what social media has taught me to hope for.
I’ve seen those pretty pins on Pinterest — you know the ones, how people got thousands of page views in just 30 days or grew their Instagram following to 10k within six weeks.
They make it look so easy.
Do you know how reading those articles makes me feel?
Despondent. A failure. Trailing far behind the pack.
If you’re reaching for the world’s smallest violin right now, don’t worry, I’m already way ahead of you.
Saying I almost quit blogging because I wasn’t immediately inundated with traffic sounds incredibly pathetic.
My ego almost cost me the thing that brings me the most joy in this world — writing.
Aside from just how powerful our ego’s can be, I’ve learnt 3 other important things these last few weeks. Things that I plan to remind myself of whenever I have a moment of wanting to give up on myself.
I hope that in sharing them with you they might be of some help to you too.
1) Comparison Is A Sure Cure For Happiness
“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms” — Zen Shin
We all do it. We all compare our behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.
We all compare our beginning to someone else’s middle.
We all think that someone else is doing it better.
But every time we compare ourself to someone else we take away another piece of our own happiness.
We steal from ourselves and we do it without even realising it.
Yes, we should have dreams and goals. Things we are aiming for. Things we are aspiring to be. Just not at the expense of our own happiness.
Nothing is worth that price tag.
Looking to others for inspiration is great, as long as we don’t let it paralyse us.
Looking at how far others have come and using that as a marker of how far we could go with the same hard work, dedication, and perseverance is important as long as we don’t expect to get there overnight.
2) Be The Tortoise Not The Hare
“We live in a culture full of hares; but the tortoise always wins.” — Dave Ramsey
The tortoise realises that chasing our dreams is a marathon not a sprint.
The tortoise understands that anything worth having does not come easily.
Most of all, the tortoise knows that taking small steps every day means that he also gets to enjoy this journey we call life.
We live in a world where we’re taught to want everything yesterday.
We’re taught to hustle and grind.
We’re programmed to want to be the next overnight success story.
But what is underrated in society is the daily joy that comes with plodding away at what we love.
What is underrated is celebrating the small successes. Those first 100 followers on Instagram. That first story that’s picked up by Medium’s curators.
We need to celebrate those things. It’s important.
Because if all we’re ever doing is striving for the next thing without taking in the small moments of joy, happiness and excitement along the way then what’s the point of it all?
Let the hare’s overtake you. It doesn’t matter. We’ll get to where we want to go but let’s enjoy the ride along the way.
3) Always Aim To Serve
“Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.” — Muhammad Ali
Serving others and adding value to their lives is all I’ve ever wanted to do.
But somewhere along the way I got sucked into the mentality that my success at doing that was going to be measured by likes, claps, comments, and followers.
And yet none of that means anything if all we end up being is a popular person of no substance.
To get to our final day knowing we deeply touched and affected one person’s life is a beautiful thing. To be able to say that we did that with seven people is incredible. And to have the privilege and opportunity to serve 100 people in that way is remarkable.
We need to do away with the ideas of grandeur that society has planted in our heads.
To lose the idea of being popular, inspiring, or influential to the masses.
Because yes, that may come, and how amazing would it be to use the goodness that lies in our hearts on such a grand scale, but more important is the way we serve others in small ways each and every day.
- The way we exchange a smile with the elderly woman we see in the grocery store as we grab that tin from the top shelf for her that’s out of her reach.
- The way we give up our seat for the frazzled mother with her grizzly two year old toddler.
- The delight we take in responding to that one comment on Medium from someone telling us our words have made a difference in their life.
We may not have the big platform, the hundreds of thousands of social media followers, the massive blog traffic, but we can still serve.
Aim to become known as the person who always adds value to people’s lives. Aim to be the person who always serves.
A Dose Of Humble Pie
It turns out that sharing all of this with you has not been as mortifying as I thought it would be when I first started typing.
There’s something about bringing our darkest thoughts and feelings out into the light that helps take the shame away.
My ego almost caused me to give up before I’d even begun but humility has made me realise what I already knew all along — that anything worth having is worth working hard for.
It would be wonderful to hear your thoughts on times in your life where you’ve wanted to give up but didn’t and what stopped you.
Please leave me a comment below and share your story because I’d love to hear from you.