If you keep doing things the way you’ve been doing them, you’re just going to get the same results.
“Every next level of your life will demand a different you,” Leonardo Dicaprio once said — he’s right. If you want to reach the next level, it’s time to do things differently.
I first started going to therapy when I was 21. After 12 short months, I felt like I’d matured 5 years. After another few years of therapy, I felt like I’d matured another decade. I found myself more comfortable talking with colleagues 10 and 20 years my senior. I really related to Ryan Holiday’s recent piece: “I’m a Millennial and I Don’t Understand My Peers — Not Even a Little Bit”.
If you’re reading this, you probably want to get different results in several areas of your life
Maybe you want different results than the same old never-ending student loan payments.
Maybe you want to stop dating the losers that keep flooding your dating apps.
Maybe you want to stop looking out the window and wishing for a different life.
Maybe you want to look in the mirror and see something different.
Whatever it is, if you want different results, you need to start doing things differently.
Common Actions Deliver Common Results. So Stop Doing What Most People Are Doing.
“The best results in life are often held back by false constructs and untested assumptions.” -Tim Ferriss
You know the old saying: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”
And most people are still doing the same things over and over again, expecting different results.
In my upcoming book What Extraordinary People Know: How to Cut the Busy B.S. and Live Your Kick-Ass Life, I discuss one of the most important things anyone can do to break out of unhealthy, unproductive routines:
Here’s an excerpt from Chapter 5: “Be a Rebel (A.K.A Don’t Be ‘Normal’)”
“It’s no great achievement to go along with the crowd. Be the unusual guy, the
extraordinary guy.” –Darren Hardy
If you want what no one else has, you gotta do what no one else does.
In short: be a rebel. Start doing “weird” things; things most people don’t do, or are unwilling to do. In the words of former editor of SUCCESS Magazine Darren Hardy once said: “Successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do.”
- Eat Weird Things
What you eat frames your day. It’s the structure that sustains your health, which is the foundation for your energy, focus, creativity, and endurance. What you eat enables you to create hyper-focused productivity…or disables you into a food coma.
Most people don’t eat an optimal diet. Remember, the world sets you up for this - there’s enormous money to be gained from your healthcare bill, prescription meds, exercise regimen, workout clothes, and fast food budget. With a burger and fries being cheaper than an apple, the world doesn’t set you up to eat well.
In the words of Aubrey Marcus in his book Own the Day, Own Your Life: “If you’re anything like me, you’ve found yourself owned by cravings and convenience, only to be left battling inflammation, brain fog, low energy, and mood dysregulation, all of which prevent you from crushing it during your afternoon work session.” This is the norm.
The rest of the chapter, I talk about 3 more ways to “be weird”:
2. Say Weird Things (communicating deeply and fearlessly with the people that matter most)
3. Spend Your Time in Weird Ways (focus on learning and creating, not entertainment or distraction)
4. Spend Your Money in Weird Ways (choose self-investment over gadgets and fads)
Once you stop acting like everyone else, you’ll be able to get things — relationships, income, health, mindset — that almost no one else has.
Common actions deliver common results — so stop doing what everyone else is doing.
“The fear of being different prevents most people from seeking new ways to solve their problems.” -Robert Kiyosaki
Start Small, Because (Consistent) Small Steps Lead to Huge Change
“It isn’t so much knowing a whole lot, as knowing a little and how to use it that counts.” -George Harris Larimer
Most people think creating significant life change happens quickly.
But that’s not how it works. It took a long time for you to build up those negative behaviors and mindset; it’ll take some time to develop a new one.
The problem most people face is their impatience with waiting for results, even if small progress is being made. In their eyes, small progress isn’t big enough.
This black-and-white thinking is responsible for many people’s failed attempts to change. Since they can’t see any big results soon, they impatiently give up and revert back to who they were.
In the words of Niklas Goeke:
“Tiny steps will take you much farther than infrequent home runs.”
In the past 12 months, I’ve gained 20,000 new email subscribers.
Do you want to know how many subscribers I got over my first 4 years of blogging?
For 4 years, I published article and article into cyber-nothingness. Then, in one month, I gained 100 subscribers. The next month, 1,000. The next month, 3,000.
And so on.
The science of evolving into something better isn’t complicated. In the words of Jim Rohn, “Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.”
Darren Hardy echoed this sentiment: “Small, seemingly inconsistent steps completed consistently over time will create a radical difference.”
Personal evolution happens slowly. Often, it seems like nothing is happening at all.
But success is sneaky. It often comes all at once, and you suddenly realize you’re 10x the person you were just a few months ago.
“When money begins to come, it comes in such abundance that you wonder where it has been hiding all those lean years.” -Napoleon Hill
How To Live a Life 99% of Other People Will Envy
“If you keep living like the way you are now, you will continue to produce the same life you already have.” -Jim Rohn
Most people are not living the life they want right now.
Instead, most people are living the life that is expected of them, the one they think they should live. Their primary motivations are to keep up or look cool. In most cases, their own dreams are forfeited in the process.
As a result, their health is constantly drained — all this pretending is exhausting. Most people end up overindulging on media and substances to try and make up the difference. Their relationships suffer. Their vision is foggy and unfocused. Their emotional health is dangerously imbalanced.
Even those who look like they have it all together are often just faking it. As Seth Godin once wrote:
“The problem is that our culture has engaged in a Faustian bargain, in which we trade our genius and artistry for apparent stability.”
Envy isn’t a positive trait. “Time you spent being jealous of others’ success is time they spent working,” entrepreneur Jon Westenberg once wrote.
But you can design a life that turn heads and makes people wish they had what you do.
You can achieve enormous results with few simple tweaks, too. Author Tim Ferriss conducted a series of “experiments” to see how fast he could master a complicated skill — learning a foreign language, playing a new instrument, winning at high-stakes poker, etc.
With a few simple tweaks, he was able to rapidly learn these new skills in just a few months. “To produce extraordinary results,” he says, “you don’t need an unlimited budget; you just need a better tool kit.” Intense short-term focus can create extraordinary results.
The simplest tweaks often have the largest impact.
Just say it.
When my wife and I were in premarital counseling, our counselor gave us a piece of advice that would end up changing our lives:
Always make the first move.
The meaning is simple: if you can help the relationship, then do it. Don’t wait for the other person to act (even if you don’t want to).
Choose to learn as much as you can, as fast as you can. In the beginning, the money matters far less than the experience does.
Focus on financial independence and learning how to make your money work for you. There’s a reason most millionaires typically have at least 7 different income streams.
If you don’t have good health, you can’t have good wealth. When your energy is spent on trying to overcome — exhaustion, insomnia, hangovers, headaches, dehydration, a bad diet — you won’t have energy to do work that really matters.
Small tweaks make big changes.
One of the most important quotes I’ve ever heard in my entire life was during a finance seminar by Dave Ramsey. He said:
“If you want what no one else has, you must do what no one else does.”
He was talking primarily about money — getting out of debt and saving money requires discipline and focus, which most people don’t have — but over time, I learned that this principle applies to every other area of life as well.
If you want the common result — average health, average wealth, average relationships — then by all means, do what everyone else is doing.
But if you want what no one else has — extraordinary health, incredible wealth, and fulfilling relationships — then you must do what no one else does.
Common things deliver common results, so stop doing what everyone else is doing. Do the extraordinary option instead.
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