Unconditional Acceptance

The ability to take on things unconditionally, like acceptance or love is a key way to come to a point in life where we are at peace with everything, and everybody around us, including ourselves.

Unconditional Life Acceptance is process of accepting things that we cannot change. We have to realize that there are certain things we just have to live with.

Taking on Unconditional Life Acceptance into our lives will probably help us deal with, and process and overcome a lot of our issues connected to addiction, and other mental health problems. Issues that are emotionally, and psychologically driven.

Part of the process of Unconditional Life Acceptance involves remembering that we are only mere mortal human beings, and with that fact, we also need to remember that mistakes will always be on the horizon, cause there isn’t a perfect person in existence. A normal part of the human process is mistakes.

The greatest learning tool in the world is mistakes. It’s Our greatest teacher. The quote below I wanted to dissect and decipher today. I think we may be able to connect Unconditional Acceptance to it, as it may give us power to right some wrongs. Lets continue….

To do some things badly, and to do some bad things?

A thought provoking quote. A double meaning, identical meanings, maybe a double negative? Perhaps. The answer to that of course is for both parts, they each have something connected to “Mistakes.” You know, those things we’re really good at. Sometimes it has seemed like I am a huge magnet, and mistakes are the thickest of metal. So let’s look at each part.

First half is “to do some things badly.” What’s that mean when you hear it or read it? For me, I like to keep it on myself, so when I think about it, I believe that first part relates to the act of doing something badly. I’m not sure how to describe the perspective, but I would connect it to, perhaps getting an F on a test in school. I did it badly. I also think of things like, painting a terrible looking picture, or parking my car crooked over the lines in a parking lot. In my opinion for me, it’s a category of mistakes where they may lean more towards being accidents.

The second half of that phrase, “do some bad things” makes me think that if it was referring to me, there would be more on that list that could perhaps be bad things done intentionally. There could still be other types that aren’t necessarily categorized as intentional, even though they’re more likely something we are choosing to do. That is things like, getting high or drunk, speeding in our cars, things like that. As I said, that second part of the above phrase has another dual spectrum of “doing some bad things.” Geared more towards hurting others. Could also be robbing a bank, picking on and bullying somebody, flattening someone’s tires or what have you.

So, as Smart Recovery says, “The philosophy of unconditional acceptance; adopting unconditional acceptance can be a key to overcoming emotional problems with associated addictive behaviors. It also can be a life skill that will help you long after your addictive behavior is behind you.”

So, again, I personally, would gear it more towards mostly any kind of negative behaviors and more generally speaking, and not just addictive behaviors. Unconditional acceptance, as a whole, helps us to look past the history of addiction, look past those “bad” things, bad behaviors, bad things, realize too that much of that may actually be irrational. We may begin to see what is irrational, or exaggerated once we learn and understand just how normal it is to “exaggerate events that involve us.”

There is a lot more to this, things like downing beliefs, self demands, frustration intolerance, & awfulizations; topics I plan to go into in quite the near future. There is so much that can smear the truth, and image on what is to be as bad as it can seem to be perceived. So, look deep, do not rush into acceptance. Give it substance and depth. Try to make it unconditional. You’ll see that the pain in the ass person you know, might not be too bad. You may even see that you yourself deserve some self love.