Humanity

What Happens When You Don’t Participate in Arguments or Controversy?

Practicing the Principle of Non-Contention to Cultivate a More Loving Humanity

Darren Stehle
Sep 14, 2020 · 7 min read
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“The way for humans is to act without contention.”

6 Principles for Cultivating Open-Hearted Personal Leadership

In this article, I will introduce the 1st Principle of Non-Contention.

We Have One Mouth and Two Ears.

When was the last time you felt deeply heard by another person?

Pull out your mirror and flip this scenario.

The Space for Non-Contention Exists Between Two or More People, Face-to-Face.

Non-contention requires our greatest humanity.

Non-contention as an action consists of compassion, humility, and impartiality.

The Ultimate Practice: Silent Listening.

Two ears — one mouth.

When you stop resisting and pushing back, you allow the other side to take cautious steps towards you.

Yielding is not about being a push-over or giving up.

None of the 6 Principles Are Definitives.

What makes us human is our fallibility.

The point I wish to drive home is this:

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