Why do we pretend to be so great? ( Day#7)
Its a common phenomenon. We try to show others, we are great, selfless, humble, kind, we want to change humanity, help others and so on.
But from the core, inside we are not so great. We are grumpy, weird, stupid, selfish creatures.
Then why do we pretend to be so great?
Human beings biggest fear is being left alone, not being recognized by anyone, not being respected by anyone. Even though we make tons of money, have all the amenities to be happy, if someone does not respects us, we feel so insignificant. That’s why we pretend to be so great, so kind etc. etc.
Then why do we pretend to be so great?
I have been working with lots of communities, creatives and people who want to change the world for last 10 years in many initiatives. The very first response or very first comment from those people is, I am doing great things, I am so busy and such engineered bubble of greatness.
I feel a little bit weird hearing those, If you are doing great things, its great, why do you have to say every single day to all the people you meet I am so great?
I went very deep to these individuals, both home and abroad. Found deep inside they are unsatisfied, feel so insignificant about themselves, that they always need to preach themselves as so great.
If you are doing great things, its great, why do you have to say every single day to all the people you meet I am so great?
Its a very common syndrome, all the social workers, Do good Social business workers, world changers — they all feel to do the same thing because they deep inside feel themselves incomplete.
I am not saying its bad, I also want to be famous, significant something, If I say I write just for myself that would be a Semi-lie. I am also not so great.
But I don’t like showing a picture perfect greatness, selflessness. Everybody is doing something at first because for themselves, their survival, then for something else.
We set out to change the world, but we fail to change ourselves every single day. In fact its nearly impossible to change ourselves unless we are hit by a black swan or change our support system or environment.
Everybody is doing something at first because for themselves, their survival, then for something else.
I love money, I love showing myself successful and I am greedy, hungry for success, fame. I have anger, sometimes I lose control. I feel envious,jealous of others peoples success and I have urges of copying others too.
Even every time when I see a sexy women, I feel the urge of having sex, but I control my desires with my moral code. But something like that pops up in my mind instantly like an autopilot.
Because I am a human, weird, selfish, flawed and imperfect creature. And I do not have any desire to show myself as great or engineering greatness. I am trying to change myself every single day, If someone else benefits along the way which is fine, if does not which is fine too.
And yes, I think about myself for anything I do at very first, as I am not so great.
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