Why Not Having Children is Important to Me
Giving myself the space to live my life, regardless of social pressure
*2021 update — This article was written in 2018 at the beginning of my childfree blog journey. The blog has since expanded to a Childfree lifestyle brand, podcast, and virtual conference collaboration. Details here!
I was 22 years old — my mother had recently passed away and my 19-year-old brother was going to become a father. I stopped by the family home to chat with my dad.
“ I don’t want to have children” I blurted out.
There it was, the moment I realized I had a choice in the matter.
I never enjoyed being a child. My soul felt trapped in a little body. I didn’t connect with my parents or their religion-based lifestyle choices. We weren’t allowed to have a TV or celebrate any holiday. A nameless church based in Christianity that said I had to wear a skirt, even in gym class.
My life is very free nowadays. I don’t belong to any religion. Publicly, I’m single. Privately, I have a lover/companion. I live alone and travel alone but enjoy companionship on occasion.
Up until I began blogging about being childfree, I battled with myself on how to respond to common social…
