Thought for the day: do you ever notice how much time we spend focusing on the past and the future? So much so that we forget to even acknowledge the beautiful present in which we are living? Instead of living so much in the past and in the future, what if we started to live more in the present moment? What if we started to focus on today and only on today? How much different would our lives look than what they are now?
If there is one thing that I am learning in life, it is to focus on today and only on today. Yesterday has already come and gone, and nothing from it can be undone. And tomorrow, well, tomorrow is nothing but a distant hope. A hope in which I would love to see, but it is not certain.
A lot of my life has been focused in these two areas. I always look back and wonder what I could have done differently, or how my life would look if I hadn’t made the many mistakes that I made.
At the same time, though, I also spend too much time preplanning for a future that is all but certain. How do I want my life to look? What do I need to do in order to achieve the life that I wish to someday live?
These are all good questions to consider, but not to obsess over. I have slowly come to realize that by obsessing over them, I am basically negating the incredible life that I am already living. I mean, seriously, my life is nothing but a blessing, and from the reminiscing of past mistakes to the optimism of all that I am capable of achieving in the future, I have failed to realize how blessed I truly am.
Looking back, I am what you would have called a blessed mess. Blessed in the sense that my parents gave me everything that I desired and I lived a damn good life. But a mess in the sense that I never felt good enough mentally and emotionally.
Did I make mistakes? Absolutely. And for a while, I felt as if it was wrong to make mistakes. But mistakes are part of life, and without making mistakes we can’t grow or learn. It is important to learn and grow from your mistakes, but not to dwell on them. You will never be able to change your past, so is it really worth wasting your time in trying to do so?
I wish I could begin to tell you all that I want to achieve in the future, but the list would be far too long. I have such high hopes for myself and the direction in which I want my life to go.
The only problem with this, though, is that I sometimes forget to give myself room to breathe and focus on all that I already have. I forget to allow myself to enjoy the moment because I am so focused on trying to achieve what I want for my future.
There is a saying that goes “You never know what you have until it’s gone.” I don’t believe that anybody should ever settle for what they have, but we should at least appreciate all that we already do have because someday, it will all be gone. It won’t be until that day where we look back and wish we would have given more attention to what is now our present.
Finding A Middle Ground
In life, there has to be some type of common ground. Everybody should learn from their mistakes to help them grow as a person, and everybody should be filled with hope for the potential that the future brings. But not at the cost of your present.
None of us are ever going to be able to relive the past, so why would we spend our time living in it? And despite how optimistic we are for what the future has in store for us, it is not certain that we will be around to live it.
Focus On Today and Only On Today.
This exact moment in which you and I are living right now is going to be gone before we know it. It will be a moment in which we will never be able to recreate, and a memory in what is an all but certain future. This moment that we have right now could very well be our last, so why not live it like it is.
If there was one piece of advice that I could give to everybody, it is to stay motivated, but remember to be present for the blessing that you are currently living. Learn from your past, set goals for your future, but live for today. Today is a gift that you are blessed enough to be living, and that’s why it’s called the present.