You Can’t Expect Others to Make You Feel the Way You Want to Feel

A Personal Evolution Practice (PEP) to get clarity on how you want to be loved and respected.

Darren Stehle
Dec 21, 2020 · 7 min read

When we feel that people haven’t paid us the attention we think we deserve, our ego may take offence.

By observing the extremes of our ego, we can notice that our ego has a middle-ground — an origin.

Why is it so challenging staying centred?

One of the biggest mistakes we make in human relationships is expecting others to act in a particular way.

Personal Evolution Practice for Love & Respect

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Alisdare Hickson

Let’s create clear definitions of what the feelings of love and respect mean to you.

Step 1.1: Define the conditions for love.

Step 1.2: Define the conditions for respect.

Step 2.1: Refine — The lack of love

Step 2.2: Refine — The lack of respect

Step 3: Align — Create your “feeling statements”

Remember, no one can make you feel the way you feel.

Download the PDF worksheet here:

Share your insights in the comments below or contact me if you’d like to dive deeper into this process.

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