When I distanced myself from writing, to focus in my studies, I prioritized my degrees over my desires. This led to me loosing my audience and making me depressed. I opened my heart through writing and expressed my feelings best in this way, but when I realized that I made a mistake, I didn’t give up. I was determined to take responsibility for it and move forward.
“This is my mistake and I am responsible”
This is the first mantra that you must follow to accept your mistake. You cannot keep on whining about it or blaming others or other situation for it. It is your fault and you must take responsibility. No matter who criticizes, judges, or embarrasses you for your mistake, you should be true to yourself.
This advice runs counter to the cultural assumptions we have about mistakes and failure, namely that they are shameful things. This sense of humiliation combined with the inevitability of setbacks when attempting challenging tasks, explains why many people give up on their goals. What’s missing in people’s beliefs about success is that more challenging the goal, more frequent and difficult setbacks will be. Bigger ambition calls for bigger dependency on your ability to overcome and learn from your mistakes.
You made a mistake, and now you are responsible for fixing things and learning from your experience so that you can do better next time.
Think back to all the mistakes you made in life and consider how they have strengthened your character and ability. Consider the plethora of skills that your mistakes have taught you, and also how they have shaped your knowledge, personality, your social development and your life experience. So if this happened in the past, why can’t it happen again. Who knows, in the next five years you might be pondering back on this same mistake and learning so many things again….
“We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be the prisoners of it.”
The four kinds of mistakes that you can make are:
- Stupid mistakes: These are weird mistake like falling while you are standing on a plane road or poking your own eyes with a pencil or dropping beaten eggs on a neighbor.
- Simple Mistakes: These are mistakes that can be easily rectified with some effort, like falling short of food in a party where you couldn’t anticipate the guest count.
- Involved Mistake: This is the type of mistake which requires a lot of effort and you are conscious about it but too lazy to do anything about it, like eating fast food on a regular basis even though you are overweight.
- Complex Mistake: These represents the unpredictable mistakes that do not necessarily have the space for rectification, like indulging yourself in a bad relationship.
Learning from mistakes that fall into the first two categories (Stupid & Simple) is easy, but shallow.
Involved mistakes, requires significant changes to avoid. These are mistakes we tend to make through either habit or nature. But since change is so much harder than we admit, we often suffer through the same mistakes again and again instead of making the tough changes needed to avoid them.
The more complicated the mistake you’ve made, the more patient you need to be. There’s nothing worse than trying to fix something you don’t understand: you’ll always make things worse.
Dwelling upon mistakes will diminish your self-confidence and your creative self-expression. So make peace with your mistake. First of all, remember that the path to your goals is naturally riddled with mistakes; with errors of judgment; with unforeseen circumstances, and with miscalculated decisions. This is just a natural part of life. Secondly, when you make a mistake it’s important to realize that you are in fact making progress. Mistakes are not a step back, but rather a side-step that will help you to see the path ahead with greater clarity as you keep moving forward.
“Failure is instructive. The person who really thinks learns quite as much from his failures as from his successes.”
Asking for constructive criticism is a great way to learn from your mistakes and become a success. Make sure you ask for constructive criticism from people you admire and respect. These people will see your potential and can help you reach that potential. Remember, constructive criticism is simply a set of suggestions aimed to help you become a better person, even though sometimes it can sound like regular criticism.
Know that success is not perfection. Success is simply doing the best you can with what you have. As long as you are constantly growing as a person and improving your actions, you are striving towards achieving success. Mistakes are bound to happen. But if you learn from them, you are on your way to becoming a success.
Be proud of your mistakes because:
Mistakes move us to learn….
Mistakes reboots our Motivation….
Mistakes reminds us that its all an experiment to reach the goal…
Therefore, mistakes are not a problem as long as you learn something from it. Be careful of the self talk because you are always listening. Do not let the fear of failure be your enemy, instead embrace it. Consistent action creates consistent results so learn to take action. To know more about how to take action and stick to it, click here. To learn how to be consistent click here. Also to learn about how to be fearless click here.
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