You’re Not Unambitious. You’re Just Differently Ambitious.

Stop feeling bad if you have ‘small’ goals.

Sadia M.
Sadia M.
Nov 20 · 7 min read

This culture shames you, mocks you, belittles you just so you would buy every shiny new thing that comes into the market. It sells you a definition of ‘ambition’ that if you don’t live up to means you’re failing at life. In your efforts to become ‘ambitious’ you fall into the never-ending cycle of chasing success and happiness in meaningless things.

But there’s another breed of people. They’re highly ambitious but not the type that the culture would define as ‘ambitious’. The culture would, instead, call them ‘mediocre’ and ‘lazy’. However, they don’t have a problem with that because they’re happy and successful on their own terms. They’re unconventional. They’re a small percentage. But they’re there.

1. You Question Modern Culture’s Definition of Ambition

Merriam Webster defines ‘ambition’ as,

2. You Shamelessly Break the Rules

Since they don’t care about living up to society’s definition of ambition, this class of highly ambitious people doesn’t aspire to be the next Bill Gates, Elon Musk, Kim Kardashian, or Seth Godin. Fame and status don’t appeal to them. In fact, they laugh when they see people chasing arbitrary standards of success and happiness instead of doing what truly matters to them.

3. You Ditch the Idea of Conventional Goal Setting

Modern culture worships goals. It says if you don’t have a huge list of goals then you’re not ambitious enough. If you’re not sacrificing every minute of your day working on your goals, then you might as well be dead but if you’re no different from an animal that has no goals.

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4. You Have ‘Small’ and ‘Boring’ Goals

Highly ambitious people that are a product of modern culture have huge to-do lists and goals. “Oh, I’m sorry. I don’t have time in my schedule for this”, you’ll often hear them say.

5. You Don’t Explain or Apologize

Because they’re not living the conventional definition of success and ambition, this class of people often hear things from people like,

6. You’re Okay With Being Invisible

Because fame, status, and society’s approval don’t matter to them, most of these highly ambitious people are invisible to the world.

Final Thoughts

Being ambitious can look different for different people. You don’t have to live up to modern’s culture’s definition of ambitious if that doesn’t bring joy and meaning into your life. Ask yourself, “What’s my definition of ambitious?”

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Sadia M.

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Sadia M.

Written by

Sadia M.

• Freelancing, blogging, career and life advice for 20somethings • Top Medium publications • Top rated freelancer on Upwork • Reach out: sadiam.blog@gmail.com

The Ascent

A community of storytellers documenting the journey to happiness & fulfillment. Join 138,000+ others making the climb on one of the fastest-growing pubs on Medium.

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