I’m Sympathetic to Those Who Cheat on Their Sexless Marriages
Even if I believe nothing good can come from infidelity.
Should you feel “allowed” to cheat on your spouse if they’ve stopped having sex with you? Yes, married couples actually stop having sex with one another. People ostensibly get married to have sex. Then after a few years, they stop.
Why? For many reasons. The birth of children, financial difficulties, religious shame, past sexual trauma, hormonal changes — all are issues that influence one partner to stop wanting sex with the other.
But if this happens, should the sexually unfulfilled partner feel they have the right to cheat? Or at least should they be taken off the hook for committing an act of infidelity in the rest of society’s eyes?
I’m just asking whether instead of viewing the betrayed partner as the victim, should we have more compassion for the adulterous one?
The sexually denied spouse simply wanted to stop feeling neglected. They simply wanted to feel desired.
They wanted sex. It’s a very human need.
Maybe you’ll say they should have just left the marriage. But you and I both know it’s not that easy.
