We need to care about the biggest things in life. It’s wise to care about the planet, other people, and other important matters, for instance. But sometimes you might care too much about the little things that, without added attention, need not have much impact on your life or turn into problems.
Many people find themselves in an emotional state of over care at present. Not necessarily about massive issues. They are wound up and over stressed about the little aspects of life that soon dissipate when left alone.
When you give an event, either from the past or an imagined future attention, it grows. It takes on a level of importance it doesn’t afford.
The reason so many people are experiencing fight-or-flight mode is clear. We’ve been on high alert because of a pandemic in our environment. The constant news updates about the COVID-19 virus, plus aired fears of the masses, has intensified the need to be vigilant about safety.
People’s attention to concerns isn’t one of those minor factors in life to be brushed off with ease. It is sensible to manage health and wellbeing. But the constant scrutiny of fearful events, including riots, racism, and other topics on top of the pandemic, has led to a fearful atmosphere.
We understand when soldiers return from war they may suffer from PTSD. The shock and high intensity of living in a consistent state of alert affects their behavior and brain patterns.
Similarly, a year’s worth of uncertainty over problems, distress, and worry has, whether or not we recognize it, affected our collective and individual psyches.
While it’s not the time to switch off, since the threat to wellness hasn’t gone, you can benefit from taking a break from stress.
If you find yourself caring too much about little things now, it’s not unusual. Your concern stems from what you’ve been through or witnessed or feared. You might fret over small events in your daily life like whether you are physically or mentally all right. Or your attention may flow toward cleanliness, breathing, or scarcity.
Then again, you may lie in bed at night worrying about what you have or haven’t done and what you think you ought to do next. These topics aren’t terrific bedfellows and make you lose sleep.
How to stop caring too much about little things
Sometimes, all we need to reduce stress and shake off unnecessary worry is a fresh perspective and sense of humor. It’s easy to forget to laugh or make space for fun when the world is chaotic.
Gain a fresh perspective
Put a different spin on your worries. Consider if you see them with an accurate perspective. Have you emphasized problems? When in fight or flight, everyone makes little difficulties into huge deals. But you can shrink them as soon as you recognize what you’ve done with a new, positive outlook.
One of my favorite tricks to diminish exaggerated concerns is to visualize them decreasing in size. My background and training in hypnotherapy and NLP help me recognize the power of imagination.
With your imagination, you can see the color and shape of what worries you and ask yourself where you feel it in your body.
Meditation expert and author of Bliss Brain Dawson Church suggests visualizing removing worry from your body and replacing it with the feeling of bliss. You may recall what bliss is like from meditation sessions if you’re a meditator. Or, you might remember what it’s like to experience bliss by imagining you visit a place or person who fills you with joy.
Remember to laugh often
Little children laugh on and off the entire day. By the time we are adults, our propensity to giggle and guffaw drops like a stone. And when we go through difficult times, we may forget how healing it is to enjoy a good belly laugh or see the lighter side of life.
Most of us can’t laugh (genuinely) on autopilot. But we can seek the funny in daily life. We can give ourselves a swift imaginary kick when we catch ourselves taking events too seriously and think about how a comedian would view what’s happening.
Comedy shows, funny books and stories, and lighthearted friends can put humor back into our lives when it’s scarce.
Everyone goes through times when they are prone to caring too much about little events that could be taken less seriously. Staying in worry mode, fight or flight, a long time creates worry pathways in the brain. Circuits light up and deepen the more you dwell on worries, making worrying a familiar pattern.
If you care so much you over worry, take a break now and then. Give your mind a rest from problems and use your imagination to help you. You’ll overcome anxiety and reduce stress if you put on fresh spectacles. Use your imagination to shrink concerns so exaggerated difficulties fade. And look on the bright side. Put on the funny specs of a comedian and see your daily worries through a positive lens. Or, at least, tune into humor and watch funny shows and read humorous books.
At some point, if you do this often enough, you’ll override the old brain connections relating to caring too much and replace them with calm and balance.
© Bridget Webber 2021