How to Woo Positive People and Boost Optimism

What goes around comes around

Bridget Webber
Mar 20 · 3 min read
Photo by Joel Mott on Unsplash

Look around. Do you see negative folks? Pessimistic people crush your mood with nonstop disapproval. If the scenario’s familiar, you’ve somehow attracted them.

Most likely, you soak up negative energy and your vital spark fades. These tips will help you entice optimists. First, though, here’s why you might appeal to negative people.

You focus on negativity

There’s plenty to worry about in the world. There’s no need to fixate on it though. Positive facets of life surround you and wait for you to uncover them. When you scrutinize unavoidable problems, saying how scared or angry they make you, your woe increases. You attract pessimistic people who contribute to anxiety.

If you’re worried about something, secure support and comfort. Acknowledge your anxiety. Even sit with it awhile so you recognize it doesn’t disable you, after all. But remember not to languish in angst too long or you’ll find yourself stuck in negative treacle.

You maintain your current situation

Do you recall the phrase “if it’s not broken, don’t fix it?” Well, it works the other way around too. If it is broken, it needs fixing. If you are stuck in a negative rut, you must change what you do to see different results. Here’s how.

Create positivity

The number one way to attract people with the specific qualities you enjoy is to mimic what you wish to invite. If you want happy people in your life, act like a happy person. Exude positivity and positive folks will flock to you since like attracts like.

We love to be with cheerful people, and their mood is catchy. Even when you don’t feel chirpy, act upbeat. Pretend you’re a positive character in a play and have to infect others with optimism.

You’ll inspire negative people to change their tune to match yours. Or they’ll fade into the background, making room for happier people. You’ll feel like a fraud at first, but persevere and your effort will be fruitful.

Energize with positive input

Engage with positivity daily to fuel happy hormones. They’ll surge when you are sunny. Watch positive shows on TV and listen to beautiful or energizing music. Connect with positive family members and friends and do things that make you happy.

Negativity is part of life and isn’t always avoidable. You can pour attention into whatever increases happiness though. You will be positive and encourage happy people to spend time with you. You’ll raise positive vibrations and lift people’s spirits.

Set your mood and see the best in people

When you wake in the morning, create a positive mindset. A few minutes concentrating on the attitude you want to carry into the day will help. Identify other people’s positive traits too. You’ll help them shine.

Focus on healthy qualities and optimistic words. Amplify them by attending to them and more positivity will flow your way. Also, look for life’s little pleasures and you’ll stay in a happy mood and magnetize positive people.

Cultivate a constructive mindset

Challenging circumstances occur at times. But remember to maintain a solution-oriented disposition. If you get side-tracked, return your attention to your goal. You’ll remain positive and attract like-minded folks if you stay out of negative conversations.

Work toward positive change rather than complain when circumstances aren’t ideal. Make this habitual and your brain will support positivity.

Project your best qualities

You’ll become a positivity magnet if you project the finest aspects of your personality. Think about what they are — kindness, creativity, or humor, for instance — and aim to use them every day. Bear your best qualities in mind. You’ll attract positive people and happiness.

If you want to be in the company of positive people, heighten positivity in every aspect of your life. Expand helpful qualities. Be positive, and seek the best in others. Feed your mind with positivity and optimistic folks will love being with you.

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