You Are the Most Powerful Influencer You’ll Ever Meet

No one else’s tips for improvement or popularity will work until you make a pact with yourself to be the best version of you

It doesn’t matter how many mentors you follow or self-improvement classes you attend. It makes little difference how many self-development books you read. What you tell yourself and your subsequent actions will always shape you from the inside out, and nobody else is half as influential.

Did you ever wonder who the most powerful influencer is in the entire world? You might imagine it’s someone like Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, or Elon Musk, to name a few high-profile people.

No one can blame you for assuming well-known historical figures or current entrepreneurs have the greatest impact on your life. Nonetheless, the person who influences your success and wellbeing the most is you.

For good or bad, you affect your own happiness and wealth. What you tell yourself day after day, often repeating the same old phrases, goes straight into your brain and dents your psyche. Your inner voice, which has a positive or negative impact, changes how you think and behave more than anyone else on the planet.

It doesn’t matter how many mentors you follow or self-improvement classes you attend. It makes little difference how many self-development books you read. What you tell yourself and your subsequent actions will always shape you from the inside out, and nobody else is half as influential.

Success doesn’t come from following the crowd

Surprisingly, many of us set our hearts on finding a role model to look up to without forging an allegiance with ourselves to aid personal growth. We do our best to emulate habits of the rich and famous, or spiritual people we admire. And this is great news. Only, no one else’s tips for improvement will work until we make a pact with ourselves to be the best version of us.

No doubt, you’ve heard the phrase about how you can’t be anyone else because they’re already taken. Apply the principle across the board, and you’ll see what works for one person won’t necessarily work for another.

Indeed, some of the most successful and happy people ever are different to the norm. They don’t follow convention. Other people follow them.

Change comes from persistence

To get ahead by being yourself takes courage and persistence. It means working on your critical voice within and claiming it back from all those people who said you weren’t up to scratch in the past.

It means forging your own path, even when people tell you to stop and be more like them. But if you’re more like them, you’ll just be a second-rate version of who they are instead of who you’re meant to be as you.

Many of the things you do each day are duplicates of actions you took yesterday. And the same goes for your thoughts. You rarely entertain fresh ideas because your brain’s neural networks run along familiar, ingrained tracks. They scoot on rails you made previously, and they aren’t necessarily favorable.

Sometimes, you follow patterns of thoughts and behavior to your detriment. When your inner voice says you are no good twenty times a day, or you carry out a harmful habit each evening or morning, you increase the likelihood of the same thing occurring tomorrow. You’ll do what you usually do on autopilot.

Success follows working on yourself from the inside out

Perhaps you occasionally discover someone who has terrific ideas, and you want to be like them. So, you follow their advice. There’s nothing wrong with learning from masters of their trade and listening to wise folk. Sometimes, you can cut corners if you truly get to grips with what they say and alter your mindset and actions.

Nevertheless, how many people truly change after listening to a self-help podcast or fixing a nutritious meal? The only way to make permanent change is to implement healthy lifestyle qualities. You have to perform them on repeat forever.

And the only way to make them work for you is to work on yourself from the inside. This means altering self-talk to make it positive and helpful. It means learning from mistakes. It means finding at least one thing that doesn’t work each week, perhaps, and changing it (forever).

I can’t count how many times I’ve met people who wanted to change themselves who haven’t gone the course. They quit before their neural networks have altered to make way for new behaviors. They lose weight, get fitter, or are kinder to themselves for a few weeks or months. Then they sink back into old unhelpful habits.

Pretty soon, they are stuffing themselves with junk foods again and berating themselves so they feel awful.

They don’t change, although they read the best self-help books ever written or had an excellent teacher. They imagined knowing the right people and gaining the right information would mean they couldn’t fail. But they were wrong.

They were wrong because no one and nothing could influence them more than they could themselves. And the same is true for all of us.

If you want to improve anything about yourself from your golf swing to your wealth, you need to make a vow, a promise to yourself that you’ll work from the inside out. Rather than assume experts can spread their magic your way, to change for the better, you need to find your own unique way that works for you and repeat positive behaviors and actions over and over until they are ingrained in your brain.

It’s helpful, at times, to learn from others, and they can show you the way. But only to the extent you’re willing to take their ideas and make them yours. And when you do, you can use your own magic too, whatever makes you shine, and add it to the mix for success.

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