Life doesn’t suck. You do.
Yes, you. You sitting there, reading this. You suck. Big time. How do I know? Because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t be reading this. So to clear any doubts you had — no, it’s not life; yes, it’s you. YOU suck.
Not convinced? Let’s look at it like this. It’s your life, isn’t it? You’ve announced that to enough people, far too many times. So as a corollary, your life can’t suck unless you do. So let’s not blame life. The buck stops here. Accept it. Or at least make room for the possibility that you might be, just a teeny-weeny bit of a sucker. Most of the time.
And that’s okay (well, not entirely, but since we’re so good at handling criticism, let’s pretend it is). Almost everybody sucks, some of the time. Some more than others. But generally, the aim in life should be to suck as less as possible. This, however, is quite hard to do if you don’t know why you (and your life) suck. So, without further ado, let’s get into the top 5 reasons as to why you suck.
1. You suck because you have no real priorities in life
And you’ve never bothered to have any. You just did things because your parents asked you, or because everybody else was doing them, or simply because you have way too much free time. You have no goals of your own, no plan, no road map except what society throws at you. It’s true that most of our life is not really a choice — your parents, your school, your first friends — all these things just ‘happen’ to you. But to get stuck in a monkey-see-monkey-do zone is totally your choice, and you’re sucking at making that right now. If you don’t figure out what you really want, don’t get your priorities in order, and don’t have a plan — your life WILL suck.
2. You suck because you haven’t learnt a single new thing in the last year
Or worse, all your life.
Because learning is for losers, right? And you’re too cool for that.
Well that strategy was great in high school, but in real life, if you can’t learn something new every once in a while, you will suck. Think about it — you’ll probably live to be at least 80 years old. Do you want to live it out exactly being like this? Living is about learning. It’s about discovering — yourself, and the world around you. And that happens only when you start doing new things — Learning new skills, new languages, trying something you haven’t tried before, interacting with new people, taking unfamiliar chances. If you’re going to spend the rest of your life being exactly what you are right now — you WILL suck.
3. You suck because you care way too much about what everyone thinks of you
It’s like this — If you have no plan and priorities of your own, you will constantly look to others for advice and opinion, and get swayed by it. And if you aren’t learning new things on your own, you will never be confident enough to believe in yourself. So, point 1 + point 2 = point 3. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be reckless and rebellious for no good reason. Sometimes it’s good to take advice from good people. But generally speaking, the people you care so much about — most of the time, they suck too. And if you keep giving them that kind of importance, so will you. And miserably.
4. You suck because you don’t care about what you’re doing
Yeah — you’re the ‘nothing matters’ type; the go-with-the-flow type. Well you know what most things eventually flow into right? Right. Not everybody gets to do all the things they want to do, on their terms, all of the time. In fact, each of us has to compromise, has to do things we don’t like, has to put up with situations we hate. Yeah, it’s frustrating — but that’s no reason to not give a beep about what you’re doing. Because it matters. Your life matters. Everything you do, you say, you think, all the choices you make — they matter. They are an extension of you. Take them seriously. Take your life as personally as you can. D’uh! It’s yours! So make that count. Sure you may not be doing what you dreamed of. But it’s still something YOU are doing. Be proud of that.
Not caring is not cool. Not caring just sucks.
5. You suck because you are an Apple user
And Apple products suck. iPod, iPhone, iPad, iSuck — they all come with the same instruction manual — How to suck. Essentially, if you’re someone who thinks it’s worthwhile to spend a worker’s three month’s worth of wages on a phone, likes to feel ‘special’, judges people by their cars or watches or sunglasses, spends Rs. 4000 on a pair of pants, doesn’t know a single programming language but defends their iPhone’s features like they designed it themselves, buys into marketing gimmicks — then you suck and there’s really no hope for you. The only people more hopeless than you are the ones that buy phones the need ‘invites’. Read this article again and maybe you can still save your soul.
So, to sum it up — yes, you got it. The good news is — now that that’s been established, you can start un-sucking. It’s not easy and it doesn’t happen overnight.
Living a great life is a life-long process, made up of all the things you do on a daily basis. It’s about discovering all the things that bring you joy and meaning, and finding a way to do as many of them as you can, as often as you can, as passionately as you can.
Sure it’s not going to be possible all the time, and at times you will still suck — but it’s far better to struggle at not sucking than to do nothing and suck big time. The trick is to find a good balance — and try to maintain it for as long as possible. It’s far too easy to constantly blame life and circumstances for everything — but that doesn’t help anybody. And really, if you don’t try — your life will never change. So start trying, stop sucking.
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