Read the book that inspired this journal
I was drinking an ice-cold glass of beer, observing the air bubbles stream from the bottom of the glass to the foamy head. As I watched this, my one-year old toddled in the room with a Sippy cup of filled with apple juice. Savoring my beer, I wasn’t going to give it a second thought, until I caught a glimpse of the bubbles and the color of the juice.
That’s when a thought struck me: Apple juice and beer look an awful lot alike. What a neat prank to pull on someone next April’s Fool Day: replace all the beer at the party with apple juice! No one would know the difference until that ill-fated first taste. Then I thought further. If there were three identical glasses filled to the same level with the same colored liquid, could I readily tell the difference between those 3 cups?
Taking it even further…let’s suppose that those three cups were filled beer, urine and apple juice. What if the obvious way to tell the difference between the three was denied to you — you could not smell them and you could not taste them? With no sense of smell, and obviously not wanting to taste the contents of the cups, what test would you perform? What “tell-tale signs” would you look for?
For this reason, I decided to publish my second book, Beer, Applejuice & a Sterile-Sample. It’s purpose is to help individuals predict the probable intentions of others, through eight quick, simple techniques.
When we talk about reading people, we find ourselves necessarily speaking in some form of generalizations, making some sort of judgments. This is unavoidable, and as I’m about to try and demonstrate, an every-day common thing. Human beings share a number of similarities in their behavioral and psychological traits. That’s the entire reason it’s possible to read anyone at all.
This book is partitioned into four parts. The first part (the part you are reading right now) explains where I got the idea for this book, my rationale and goals for you the reader, and a bit about my credentials. Part two begins the list of eight ways to read the probable intentions of others.
The first three “Ways”, are designed to help predict negative or wasteful intentions. They are: Lack of Interest, Return on Investment (ROI) and Time Spent. For many of us, it is natural to “trust first and question later”. That’s not necessarily bad, but it’s important that you learn to recognize individuals that can cause you psychological and social harm, and therefore are not worthy of your trust.
People that are ultimately negative and harmful don’t always come to us as such. They pop into our lives as harbingers of benefit, waiting for our moments of vulnerability to unleash their malevolence upon us. This book will show you some ways to recognize these people.
The next three “Ways” are designed to help predict positive or beneficial intentions. They are: Support, Longevity and Non-Judging. We’ve already talked about how important it is to identify and steer clear of people who have negative intent towards us. It is equally critical that we can recognize those who are actually good for us in this world. By only focusing on the negative, we may find ourselves living a life that is too guarded, not open to the incredible bounty that is often reaped from calculated risk-taking. By learning how to also recognize people who are positive, you will be better equipped to maintain a balanced approach. We’re not looking for demons behind every bush. I do want you to be able to identify which bushes are most likely to give you problems, though.
The last two “Ways” involve recognizing traits and characteristics in ourselves. As growing, evolving human beings, who have to deal with lots and lots of other human beings, we must strive to maintain a healthy inner-focus. More times than not, the people we know the least about, is us. It is said that the traits which we resent in other people, are actually the traits we despise within ourselves. We must be able to recognize traits and behaviors that may or may not be healthy for us and are within us.
Different people will derive different benefits from this book. Some of my colleagues suggested that the content breaks no new ground, and even my oldest daughter has said (with eyes rolling I’m sure),“Dad…everybody knows the stuff you’re talking about in your book!” In my experience with everyday people however, I have found that this is an exception, and not the norm.
Granted, some of the ideas presented here may seem rudimentary and basic to the more advanced among us. Those people may say, “Yes, of course I get this”. To those individuals, it is my hope that I may give cause for you to think of these basics in a fresh, new way, or to simply remind you of, yes — what you already know.
My intended audience however, much like for my first book, Leave the Ranks of the Superstitious and Cowardly, are those who are interested in navigating the social and relational landscape of life. To those who have struggled with reading people and have wished to avoid relationship-pitfalls where possible, it is my sincerest hope that this short work may be of enormous benefit.
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