Online dating is weird.
Online dating is uncomfortable.
Online dating can be really dangerous.
I was innocently on a dating app after about a year of being single, and realizing I had no prior dating experience other than my first, garbage ex-boyfriend.
I wanted to get out there and test the waters. I was interested in meeting new varieties of people, and getting a little bit of experience in the dating/flirting department.
I promised myself that the moment online dating stopped being fun, I would quit.
I probably went on 3–5 dates per month for a 4–5-month stretch.
It became clear to me that, while it was still fun, I wasn’t finding this method of dating beneficial for finding the right fit for me in a partner.
But before quitting, I would go on several memorable dates, with several very memorable people.
One of which included a date who would later that year be arrested and held for an attempted plan to execute a mass shooting at my university.
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The date was awkward at best, but nothing out of the ordinary.
I was a 20-year-old undergrad, he was a 29-year-old med student.
I can’t remember initially what drew me to him to keep chatting on the dating app, but I imagine it was because he presented himself as very kind and polite.
He was normal. Painfully normal, even.
I found him averagely handsome— not that looks really matter, but it did play into my entire perception of him being a plain-old-joe…