February is for Love, Not Just Lovers.
To my ‘lonely hearts’ who cringe walking into department stores this month, who roll their eyes when they see their Instagram’s begin flooding with basic rose bouquets and crappy chocolate hearts ... let me tell you that ‘Valentines Day’ is for everyone.
Some people think love is all the passion we see in the movies.
Kissing and swimming in bed sheets together, waking up in their arms and gazing into their eyes.
The “we’ve been together for x amount of years” love.
The “we just moved in together and adopted a rescue dog, we are so in love” love.
Sure those are types of love.
Valentines Day, more so, the month of February, puts our minds in a fog. You don’t have a partner so you automatically think that you are alone and unloved.
I think humans forget.
Love can be you helping a stranger,
it’s the “did you get home okay?” text.
Love is believing in someone,
love is telling the truth,
love is a shoulder to cry on,
love is sharing conversation over tea,
love is when actions speak louder than words,love is words.
Love is an act of kindness.
Love encompasses different levels,
it doesn’t ask for anything back or expect anything.
Love isn’t always the romantic kind.
I think us wanting these ‘corny’ things for Valentines Day — the cards, candies, flowers, there is nothing wrong with it.
It just really means: “I want to be shown I’m loved.”
It’s a part of our human nature, we want to be loved and given love in different ways.
It’s the act of Valentine’s Day that makes our minds go:
”Wow, they do care about me, look what they did.“
Some might want flowers, and others may want to just walk hand in hand on the beach, some ways we show love are silent.
Love is how you interpret it — and I think the hidden love the one you probably are ignorant too is the best type a person can receive.
The “I bought you a cookie just because you were having a bad day” kind of love. “I sent you sunflowers to remind you of sunshine when you are feeling cloudy” kind of love. “I just wanted to hear you laugh”, kind of love.
It’s those little things from the heart that show your soul. Things from a friend, a coworker, your mom, dad, sibling — love is around us all day.
So, this Valentines Day when you think no one “loves” you, that nobody cares— look for the tiny details in your everyday life.
We think ‘things’ are love. We are pressured from movies to the Holidays on how to show your love.
It’s more than the physical, more than what we just buy.
This word ‘love’ is an action we miss because we are being drowned in thinking love is only big romantic gestures.
Valentine’s Day is a temporary satisfaction, once February 14th melts away, my question is,
are you shown love and are you giving love besides a day that makes you obligated to show it?
So my ‘lonely hearts’ this Valentines Day,
you are not alone. You are loved.
Close your eyes — block out all the ‘love dovey’ stuff and think
what real love feels to you, what it means to you,
how do you need love?
because it’s much more than just one day in February.
You don’t have to get drunk to make it through Valentines Day,
love is all around, you can celebrate love too.
Thank you my beautiful sunflowers!
Don’t forget my book is coming to the universe! You will finally read my personal journey of heartbreak and revival. The story behind the words I write. Love Letters In The Wall: Agapé Edition
I’m going to be revealing the cover so soon!!
