There is so much I want to tell you.

I want to tell you that I've been there. I've been where you are. I understand. I get it.

I want to tell you that though at times it may feel easier to keep this secret, it is not, because this is not a secret — it is a piece of you, and that is beautiful. We are not meant to keep secrets about the great parts of ourselves.

I want to tell you that when you share this part of yourself with everyone, you will be set free. This is not to say it should be rushed — rather, take your time. It should be on your watch. But rest assured you will fly and you will be free.

I want to tell you that you are right. Not everyone will react the way you want, and that’s okay. You are right — not everyone will like this part of you, and that’s okay. We must learn it is better for someone to dislike us for who we are, rather than like us for being someone we are not.

I want to tell you that feeling pain and struggle is better than feeling nothing at all — for love usually arrives right on its heels. But it cannot arrive unless we bear the pain of taking down our walls.

I want to tell you that there is no right way or wrong way to do this — only your way, the way that works for you. Take the steps that feel right in your heart when your heart says “it’s time”.

I want to tell you to take care of yourself. When you get to the other side of this, you will need your health to help you live your life to the fullest — to be happy.

I want to tell you that you are right — some people are mean and bullies are an unfortunate part of life. But understand this is a fact that exists as a result of their own fear and insecurities. Understand the vast majority of people are good.

I want to tell you that you will learn who your true family and friends are. When the smoke clears, you will see who is still at your side. This can be hard but, really, this is a blessing in disguise.

I want to tell you that wearing a mask is exhausting. When you finish taking it off you will have more energy than you can imagine.

I want to tell you that your safety should always come first. Do not feel obligated to share yourself with someone who makes you uncomfortable or could jeopardize your safety. Do not feel guilty. This is not being ashamed of who you are; this is taking care of yourself.

I want to tell you that through this you will become very aware of the rights others have and you do not, and vice versa. This will both upset you and humble you. This is also a blessing in disguise.

I want to tell you that this is your journey and no one else’s. Own it. Love it. Enjoy it. Share your triumphs.

I want to tell you that you must keep smiling and laughing. It is quite simply what will carry you through this.

I want to tell you that, through this, you must learn to love yourself above all else. You cannot completely and fully love someone, and accept love from someone, until you love yourself.

I want to tell you that there will be love. There will be someone. It will most likely be when you least expect it. It may be soon, it may not be. Regardless, it takes time. They will blow you away. They will complete you. They will carry the load in moments you can’t. They will listen. They will make you laugh. They will hold your hand and be your biggest cheerleader. They will walk with you. They will love you. It will be wonderful.

I want to tell you that you will get there.

I want to tell you that you are strong, that you are brave.

And, I want to tell you that it gets better.

But I feel I cannot tell you all these things because that’s what I learned and this is your journey. You will learn a whole set of things on your own. Some will be the same, some will be different. Then, you can show me and you can teach me. Just know that while this experience is entirely yours, you are not alone.